New York, NY (December 17, 2012): A survey of YourTango Experts exposes the ugly truth about toxic relationships. For starters, a staggering eighty-nine percent agree that half or more of all people have toxic relationships in their lives.
But how can you tell if you are in one? The top three indications of toxicity include: "spending more time fighting than enjoying each other," "regularly feeling like you can't do anything right" and "feeling depressed and/or anxious." Two other telltale signs of toxic relationships are when the relationship stops being fulfilling and when you notice friends start distancing themselves from you.
Additionally, 71% of experts identify poor relationship role models, including parents, as the leading cause of toxic relationship habits, followed closely by low self-esteem, with "fear of being truly open with someone else" clocking in third. Other causes of toxic relationships include narcissism/selfishness and incompatibility. Meanwhile, YourTango Expert and therapist Kim Olver offers a different explanation for toxic relationship habits. She says, "When we get into relationships, we have a vision of what we want the relationship to look like. Over time, if it doesn't resemble our vision, we try to force our partner to be the person we imagined rather than accepting him/her."
A whopping sixty-four percent of experts agree that the number one way to overcome toxic relationship habits is by replacing them with more positive behaviors and habits, followed by couples or individual therapy. Dating Coach and YourTango Expert Ronnie Ann Ryan believes that in order to overcome toxic relationship habits, it's essential to work on one's own self-esteem and confidence, which she also sites as the leading cause of toxic relationship habits.
The good news: YourTango is here to help! From December 17 to December 21, YourTango Experts will host Love Life Reboot, an initiative designed to provide relationship detox. Plus, YourTango experts features over 1,100 mental health professionals who are available for consultation. Continue reading.
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