Ladies, we have to admit that one of the benefits of being a woman is a keen sense of intuition. However, when it comes to dating (especially when you're debating going on a second date), is it okay to rely on your gut instinct about a man, even if your sense is he's not relationship material after talking to him for under an hour?
We definitely agree when Dating Coach and Matchmaker Jasbina Ahluwalia says that in order to determine whether you're too quick to judge the guys you date, you should consider three things. First off, how well do you think a guy knows you after a first date? After all, really getting to know someone takes time. This implies that you cannot truly judge someone on a first date. We are like onions; we have a lot of layers. Each layer tells us something new about us. Second, Jasbina says, "instant chemistry is not always the best indication of long term compatibility." Instant chemistry can be misleading at times. Some men are the player type, they know women very well. They know exactly what to say and do to make woman like them, which means that there is a possibility that the chemistry you are feeling might not be real.
The two of you have such a good time together. You could have fun being out and social, engaging in an activity, or doing absolutely nothing at all. Life is challenging, so a partner who lifts your spirts and helps you lighten up is a definite keeper.
Everyone you introduce him to sees what you see–a truly good man who cares about you. It's hard not to adore a man who lights you up inside. When the people who know and love you best give your man a solid thumbs up, that's a guy worth keeping around.