We've all met a toxic man.
In fact, you've probably met a whole lot of them. And spent time with them. And dated them. And got all mired in relationships with them. And the real kicker? You probably didn't even realized that dude you were dating was a manipulative, lying, super-clingy control freak. 11 Myths And Facts About Cheating
"So many women are worried about hurting a man's feelings," says Dr. Lillian Glass, author of the new book, Toxic Men: 10 Ways to Identify, Deal with, and Heal from the Men Who Make Your Life Miserable. "They forget to worry about themselves and their own emotional needs. A lot of woman are being abused and they don't even know it."
I don't want you to be a woman ensnared by a toxic man (or woman—this book is for anyone, people), just because you didn't realize he was toxic. Neither does Dr. Glass. That is why the world needs this tome, because these men are harder to identify than you'd think. If in doubt, here are seven signs you might be dealing a toxic man. If the guy you're with sounds like the guy below, then heed the warnings. And for tons more tips on spotting, classifying and healing from these types, read Toxic Men STAT. "Is He Toxic Or Am I Just Hyper-Sensitive?"
1. He sounds too good to be true... Yeah, he is most likely a toxic man. We've all been hurt before, but a lot of women will start to retreat to a vulnerable place in their love lives when it happens, making them especially susceptible to toxic men. These guys seem to sweep you off your feet for a whirlwind romance. Be careful, though. Does he say he's ultra-protective because he loves you so much? Does he bring you gifts to smooth over his unsettling behavior? Does he seem to say whatever you want to hear, all the time? This dude could very well be one of Dr. Glass's eleven types of toxic men, ranging from the Jealous Competitor, to the Seductive Manipulating Cheating Liar, to the Socio-Psychopath. Watch. Out.
2. He tells you he is a jerk, a bad boy, or buried in debt. If a man tells you he is a certain way, just believe him. Don't try to convince him, or yourself, that he is in fact different from what he's telling you. He's not trying to be complicated, or waiting to reveal more glowing facts about himself at a later date. All you need to know is in the words he's sharing. Are Guys Jerks At Heart?
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