Is it taking you longer than you expected to get over your ex? If it's been over a year and you still feel despondent on your old anniversary, take heart: you're not alone. In this video, psychotherapist, author and YourTango Expert Julie Orlov offers advice to one reader who still struggles with her breakup long after it's ended.
First, Julie says, there is nothing wrong with taking a long time to move on after an emotional breakup. "People work through loss and grief in their own time and in their own way[s]," she says. So, stop comparing yourself to your friends. Don't be so hard on yourself just because you thought you'd be over it already. After all, haven't you been through enough heartache? My Ex Just Got Remarried; How Can He Move On So Quickly?
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Next, Julie suggests asking yourself the following questions: Are you viewing this relationship realistically? Idealizing an ex can cause you to linger for longer than if you viewed your relationship with open eyes; What is the regret all about? When we fail to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we've made, moving on can be especially difficult. It's important to remember that everyone does the best they can at the time, and all you can do is try not to repeat the same missteps again.
Hear more of what Julie has to say by watching the video above!