Surprisingly, the number one thing couples seek therapy for—and break up over—isn't something as juicy as an unsatisfying sex life, money battles or infidelity. It's communication. Specifically, the breakdown of it. In other words, learning how to communicate with your partner could be the best thing you ever learn how to do.
A recent survey of YourTango Experts, our esteemed organization of psychotherapists, counselors, coaches and other helping professionals revealed some surprising and myth-busting insights into the inner-workings of our relationships and the counseling that millions of couples seek in order to strengthen their bonds each year.
Read on to find out the 12 relationship and couples therapy myths our Experts busted:
1. Infidelity is the #1 reason couple break up. When asked why couples split, Experts chose not infidelity but "communication issues" as the top reason couples break up, followed by "loss of intimacy." Infidelity came in third.
"A lack of communication is the origin of most problems couples experience, often resulting in the break down of a relationship," YourTango Expert and Dating Coach, Norma Germain, explains. "Not understanding how to make feelings and wishes known to a partner in a non-threatening, non-combative fashion can lead to massive frustration and alienation from one another."
2. It's only my husband who "never listens to me." Could your relationship use some help in the communication department? Don't worry, you're not alone. Seventy-two percent of therapists listed "communication problems" as the top reason couples seek therapy, followed by a lack of emotional intimacy. The feeling that "the spark is gone/we no longer enjoy one another" was third and infidelity came in fourth.
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