Personally, I didn't see that one coming. Recently, since they were both talking so highly of one another, I was under the assumption that life was treating them well. So much for my ideas... 5 Reasons Russell Brand & Katy Perry's Divorce Was Inevitable
While sources are saying faith wasn't the reason for the breakup, you never can know for sure. And regardless, there is good reason to think about the role faith plays in a marriage at the beginning of the new year, especially if you've just started dating someone, or if one of your 2012 resolution is to tie the knot.
I can't speak for Russell Brand's belief system, but I know enough about Katy Perry to know that she's a Christian. She grew up in a Christian home, with two Christian ministers for parents. And if there was indeed a difference of faith between her and Russell, this could have been a major struggle in their marriage, and could be a struggle in yours, too. While I do think people of different faiths can be married and can have a great relationship, there are plenty of benefits that come from sharing the same beliefs. When you share a common faith, you tend to approach the foundational issues of life from the same perspective. There can still be differences in how the faith is lived out, but the big issues are pretty much decided.
This is just musing and speculation, but what if Katy and Russell began the exit from the "honeymoon phase" of their romance, and realized their values and life goals were totally different? How can you avoid that mistake in your life? Did Russell Brand And Katy Perry Split Over Having Kids?
1. Spend significant time and energy with your potential mate before you're married. You need to have conversations about your convictions and beliefs. If they don't match up, perhaps you should consider holding off on the marriage. Relationships have fallen apart after saying "I do," after finding out a partner disagrees on how kids should be raised, who makes more money, who should be responsible for what duties in the house and other opinions that people hold dear. These need to be discussed in a sincere, non-judgmental way before you head down the aisle, so there are no big surprises after you've exchanged vows.
2. Get past the "Love Potion No. 9" state. The word "whirlwind" has been used to describe Russell Brand and Katy Perry's marriage. While this might be OK for couples from the same faith background, I believe that, for most couples, waiting a year or more before deciding to marry is important. Reason being? When we fall in love, our brains literally get swamped with "Love Potion No. 9." The hormones swirling in our brains cloud realistic judgement of our new mates. When people talk of falling in love, they're usually talking about the "drunk-type" feelings that come from a new relationship. This love concoction in our brain lasts about nine months or so. Then, it wears off. 20 Questions To Ask Once The Honeymoon Is Over