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Men Think Discussing Relationship Problems Is A Waste Of Time

By YourTango. Posted on Aug 24th 2011.

It's not that guys are scared to talk about their problems: They just don't feel like it.

Trying to get your guy to tell you what's bothering him? Wondering why he doesn't seem interested in hearing about your horrible day? Don't worry, ladies: It's not that your boyfriend doesn't care or that he's trying to seem strong. According to a new study, it's just that most males think discussing problems is a waste of time.

That attitude isn't exclusive to adults, either. The study, which will be published in the journal Child Development, found that when it comes to opening up about their issues, little boys seem to feel the same way as grown men.

"For years, popular psychologists have insisted that boys and men would like to talk about their problems but are held back by fears of embarrassment or appearing weak," said Amanda J. Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the University of Missouri College of Arts and Science.

"However, when we asked young people how talking about their problems would make them feel, boys didn't express angst or distress about discussing problems any more than girls," Rose pointed out. "Instead, boys' responses suggest that they just don't see talking about problems to be a particularly useful activity."

Read more details, plus your best bet for getting your man to open up, on Yahoo! Shine: The Real Reason He Won't Talk