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What To Expect When Your Husband Gets Viagra

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It's time to talk about whether your marital sex life is working.

Oh, my Gosh! He's come home from the doctor with a prescription for Viagra! What does it mean? Is he going outside our relationship for sex? Doesn't he want me any more? These are the questions that go through most women's heads when the little blue pill shows up. There's really no need to worry. Use the following tips to make the best use of the medication. ThirdAge: Is Male Menopause For Real?

1. If he's gotten Viagra, he's feeling insecure and deprived about sex. If your marital sex life is dying or dead, this is your wake-up call. Talk about sex, work on the relationship, or get counseling. He's forcing the issue one way or the other.

2. If your sex life is good, and he doesn't have a medical condition that prevents erections, then it's about aging. He's feeling old, and hoping Viagra will make him young again. Let him know he's still your Prince Charming, he needs your reassurance. ThirdAge: Is Your College-Graduate Child Now Living At Home?

3. If he becomes too demanding, have a frank talk. Both of you need a reasonable amount of sex for your emotional health, and to keep your relationship intimate and connected. But, if he's gone beyond that, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Ask him what's going on with him. You both need to talk with each other. ThirdAge: Census: Divorces Decline But Seven-Year-Itch Persists