Premarital Counseling? There's An App For That

Most people out there agree that marriage is tough. Between the compromises, the conversations about money, and the legal obligation to sleep next to a sweaty person; having a spouse isn't all about playing house and playing doctor. The crew at YourTango.com highly recommends looking into a sesh or two with an expert or a respected, older person before putting your wedding face on. In all honesty, what can it hurt? Should Premarital Counseling Be A Marriage Requirement?

Some of us have neither the money nor the inclination to participate in a little premarital counseling (it's bullsh to say you don't have time: if a successful relationship is important to you and you have the money or are inclined, do it). And for the people who are tight on money or motivation (and time, I guess), there's a solution for you. An app called Couplet (www.coupletapp.com) was developed by a Ph.D named L. Sullivan to help betrothed pairs get ready for married life. The application goes for $4.99 and focuses on weekly exercises for couples to take stock in their relationship, and to figure out how to make their engagement about more than just getting ready for a wedding. iPhone, iPad and iTouch users will get relatively unobtrusive lessons and exercises a few times a week. Texas Premarital Counseling Program Not A Hit With Couples

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And now, soapbox time: your primary romantic relationship is relatively important. We'll slot it somewhere south of eating and breathing and somewhere north of acquiring granite countertops and maintaining a rotisserie baseball club on the scale of imperatives.

And now, metaphor time: the biggest difference between a good pilot and a bad pilot doesn't necessarily have to do with reflexes, eyesight or spatial relations. A good pilot is constantly checking his instruments and constantly making small corrections. A bad pilot makes fewer corrections but they're more violent. Is being a good pilot exhausting? Yes. But it becomes second nature and much less tiring after you get used to it. Be the good pilot: check in with your instruments* and make small, regular adjustments. This should prevent you from plowing into a mountain or, at the very least, have time to pull on a parachute and jump to relative safety.

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Do you think a premarital counseling app would be useful?

*Normally when I write "instruments" I mean your junk, but this time around I guess I mean feelings and observations.