Most people out there agree that marriage is tough. Between the compromises, the conversations about money, and the legal obligation to sleep next to a sweaty person; having a spouse isn't all about playing house and playing doctor. The crew at YourTango.com highly recommends looking into a sesh or two with an expert or a respected, older person before putting your wedding face on. In all honesty, what can it hurt? Should Premarital Counseling Be A Marriage Requirement?
Some of us have neither the money nor the inclination to participate in a little premarital counseling (it's bullsh to say you don't have time: if a successful relationship is important to you and you have the money or are inclined, do it). And for the people who are tight on money or motivation (and time, I guess), there's a solution for you. An app called Couplet (www.coupletapp.com) was developed by a Ph.D named L. Sullivan to help betrothed pairs get ready for married life. The application goes for $4.99 and focuses on weekly exercises for couples to take stock in their relationship, and to figure out how to make their engagement about more than just getting ready for a wedding. iPhone, iPad and iTouch users will get relatively unobtrusive lessons and exercises a few times a week. Texas Premarital Counseling Program Not A Hit With Couples
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And now, soapbox time: your primary romantic relationship is relatively important. We'll slot it somewhere south of eating and breathing and somewhere north of acquiring granite countertops and maintaining a rotisserie baseball club on the scale of imperatives.
And now, metaphor time: the biggest difference between a good pilot and a bad pilot doesn't necessarily have to do with reflexes, eyesight or spatial relations. A good pilot is constantly checking his instruments and constantly making small corrections. A bad pilot makes fewer corrections but they're more violent. Is being a good pilot exhausting? Yes. But it becomes second nature and much less tiring after you get used to it. Be the good pilot: check in with your instruments* and make small, regular adjustments. This should prevent you from plowing into a mountain or, at the very least, have time to pull on a parachute and jump to relative safety.
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Do you think a premarital counseling app would be useful?
*Normally when I write "instruments" I mean your junk, but this time around I guess I mean feelings and observations.