Why Happy Marriages Produce Happy Kids

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Creating a happy family involves maintaining a happy marriage. Here are six tips to follow.

Kids are a tremendous blessing and source of fun and laughter, but they can also be whiny, energy-draining monsters that can suck joy out of things at a the drop of a hat. With kids around the house, no matter what their ages, life and marriage gets more complicated and busy. Activities, homework, chores, meal, bedtimes, carpools, and on it goes. 5 Ways to Balance Marriage, Kids, Work, Home and Health

Much of how we do family is learned and passed down through the generations. Each generation either adopts what their family did, or goes to the other extreme vowing to do family vastly different than the previous generation. Either way, your past influences your present. And your present will influence your kid's future. 

How great would it be to pass along a simple, loving, passionate, adventurous marriage to your future generations? It can be done, and it's easier than you think.

It begins by slowing down and making a note of all you do in your marriage during a typical week. Seriously, take a moment and write down your typical week of married life. Not things you do for your children, not things you do for your job or career, or the things you do so the house looks the way you'd like, but the things you do with your spouse. Why Having Children May Wreck A Marriage

If you're like most people, this little exercise will be a bit disheartening. You'll likely see that your marriage is often pushed aside for other things. It is so easy to replace the important with the immediate. Research is now revealing that when priority is placed on the marriage and not the children—the children, and not surprisingly the marriage, benefit.

On a side note: Care to guess what the second highest timeframe for divorce is (after the first five years of marraige)? It's the 20-plus years of marriage mark. The reason? Kids are gone and there's little to hold the couple together. So regardless where you find yourself currently, if you work on making your marriage a priority, your kids reap the benefits and so do you. Having Children Made Me Love My Husband More

Here are a few ideas that may help.

1. Steal moments together. If you have young children in the house like I do, it's often difficult to find time to connect with your spouse. Take advantage of bedtime routines. My wife and I have short discussions while the kids are in the bathtub. We sit together on the deck after they go to bed. Look for little moments throughout your day; you'll likely find many opportunities.

2. Make it clear that you love your spouse. It's been stated that one of the best things you can do for your children is love their mom/dad. This is true, but it goes beyond just saying it. Sit together while watching a movie or TV. Hug. Kiss. Talk. Cuddle. All in front of your kids.

3. Do things as a family, but for your marriage. Go on walks. Ride bikes. Eat outside (maybe not currently if you live in one of the colder parts of the world). Play in the snow. Go to the playground and not only push your kids in the swing, push your spouse as well. It's the little things that you can do together that will create lasting bonds for your marriage and your family.

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  • In Anglo Saxon times, a man could divorce his wife on the grounds that she was too passionate.