Can Twitter Help Your Marriage?

Can Twitter Help Your Marriage?

Can Twitter Help Your Marriage?

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Four ways to use Twitter to tweak your marriage.

Have you ever wondered if Twitter could improve things at home? Or with your kids? With the addition of social networks in the past few years, it's amazing how easy it has become to stay "connected" to other people. Yet even with the connectedness these tools offer, many people are still more disconnected than ever. Especially at home. So could these tools be used to enhance marriage? Sure.

Let's use Twitter as an example as almost every smartphone has a Twitter app, but text messaging could apply here as well. I realize that many people use Twitter for networking or marketing. It's a great way to generate a buzz about a product or service you can provide. It's also a way to expand your network of influence and influencers. But what if Tweets were used to tweak your relationships? Or your parenting?

For example, my family of origin is cursed/blessed with the gift of oversharing. You know what I mean, you call home to say "hello" and are given every little detail about the day/week/month, and maybe even year (that's a long phone call). What they ate for lunch, what's on TV, even the episode, on and on it goes. My wife's family on the other hand, doesn't have this "gift" to the same degree as mine. So early on in our marriage I was often greeted with the phrase, "get to the point." Should We Share Relationship Problems On Facebook?

Enter Twitter. With a maximum of 140 characters, Tweets require the necessity of laser-like messaging. There's no room for extraneous details. While face to face conversations may provide a bit more connection and understanding, the extra details can, sometimes, get in the way. Whether both you and your significant other use Twitter for business, to connect with family, or each other, it can be a great way to improve your relationship. It may even be a way to save it. Keeping Twitter Tabs On Your Spouse

Here's a few ideas:

1. Focus on what's important. Messages on Twitter are short and to the point, forcing you to focus on what's most important and get to the heart of the matter between you. As a bonus, whenever I fall into oversharing mode during face-to-face conversations with my wife, she can now respond with "Tweet that!"  

2. Stay connected throughout the day. With Twitter's ability to send direct messages, this is another way to stay in touch throughout the day. You could send short messages, plan out an evening, ask them out on a date, write a poem, or simply write "I love you" 12.72 times.

3. Team parenting as a way to grow closer. With Twitter's DM feature you could easily connect and co-parent throughout the day as issues arise. Since children are so gifted at playing one parent off the other, tweeting is another one of many ways to combat this and stay informed as parents. Plus you'd have a record of your communication, further decreasing the likelihood of your child's ability to twist what one of you says in order to get his/her way. 8 Ways To Protect Your Marriage From Facebook

4. Collaborate with other parents/couples. Now, I'm not recommending that you air your family's dirty laundry. Instead, what if you used your Twitter followers to collaborate with when it comes to date ideas? Or parenting assistance? I've seen several conversations on Twitter about gift ideas and ways to celebrate special occasions. Could it be that there is a valuable resource waiting to be tapped into in order to get more out of marriage and parenting?

Try a little experiment with tweeting each other and see the impact you observe in your relationship. You could even Tweet it so others could share in your experience!

How have you used Twitter (or other social media) to improve things in your marriage and family?

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