It can be difficult to stay connected to our loved ones in today's hectic world. We struggle to keep friendships strong with coffee dates and quick emails, and we diligently pencil in phone calls to our grandparents even when we're swamped. But our romantic relationships rarely receive the same type of attention that our friends and families do, and the results can be devastating. Imagine looking across the kitchen table at the familiar contours of your husband's face. . .and realizing that the man you married now feels like a total stranger. 10 Secrets Men Keep From Women
YourTango relationships expert Melodie Tucker says this experience is scarily common. "Couples forget to prioritize their time together. Other activities like work, school, church, volunteering and hobbies take precedence. Suddenly every available moment is over-scheduled and the only time the couple shares together is spent sleeping."
Does this sound familiar? These ten signs can help you figure out whether or not your spouse has become a stranger.
1) Sign: Your husband often surprises you (and not in the good way.) It's one thing for your lover to keep you on your toes. But if you're regularly caught off guard by things your husband says or does, it may be a sign that his views or priorities have changed.
Solution: Check in with each other at least once a week. Ask, "How are you doing?"
2) Sign: You don't have friends in common. It's healthy for you to spend time apart, but it's not normal for you and your man to travel in entirely separate circles. If you don't see him interact with friends, you miss the side of his personality that comes out when he's not just one-on-one with you.
Solution: Invite a few of his friends over for dinner one night. You'll avoid impinging on his guys-night-out and you'll get to meet his friends on your turf. 3 Essential Things That Make A Marriage Work