How do you tell your man you aren't satisfied?


Every week I talk to my girls, getting a feel for what their issues are and what I need to talk about in my blog.  If you remember last week I mentioned that I would discuss some of the issues I had pointed out that women are having with their men.  Therefore, this week I not only talked to my girls, I talked to the men too.  I wanted to hear from them this time and get their take on how they would like to be approached when they are not pleasing their women in the bedroom.  Ladies I am telling you NOW… it is time for you to be heard.

I have been there, scared to say anything because I didn’t think it was appropriate or scared that if I said something, it might hurt my mans ego… but that was a long time ago.  Once I discovered how to have an orgasm during sex, I loved it and I spoke up anytime I felt like my man wasn’t doing enough to please me.  I spoke up anytime he didn’t last long enough, wasn’t hard enough, wasn’t placing it in the right place… I said something!  I know there will always be those times when there is an exception, he might be tired, it felt too good and he couldn’t hold it, or he was too excited, but when it happens too many times in a row, I SPEAK UP.  Men will always get theirs so it is up to us to let them know that we are not getting ours.  We women are difficult creatures and what might please one woman may not please another.  Men listen to our cues, how we sound, how we react, and if we don’t tell them we are not satisfied, that we aren’t reaching orgasm, how will they know.

What did the men say? I spoke with 5 different men and all of them told me that they wanted the direct approach; meaning, let them know they aren’t satisfying you and what they need to do to get you there.  When I asked about introducing toys into the bedroom, only one man (who was not in a serious relationship) said, “No way”.   Remember that men are MEN and they take pride in their ability to please a woman, therefore it is up to us to let them know what we need to make our experiences more pleasurable.

Once I felt comfortable with my man I told him about the difficulties I have in reaching an orgasm.  This is no fault of his but there are things we both need to do so I can cum.  Satisfaction is a big part of my sexual experience and with out being satisfied I don’t see how any relationship could last without infidelity.  Tell your man what you need!  If you want to try new positions, tell him you read my blog and I said positions X, Y,& Z were really good.  I do not mind being your excuse for trying something new and pleasurable.

During intimacy if he does something that feels really good make sure you let him know with your sounds, grab


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