At least for today: Do not be angry. Do not worry. Be grateful. Work with diligence. Be kind to people. Those are the five principles of Reiki that practitioners live by. Simple advice for a better life—but it doesn't stop there. As a Reiki practitioner, I've discovered both personally and through my clients numerous ways Reiki can help with love and relationships specifically.
But first, what exactly is Reiki? You may have had a Reiki session or heard about Reiki through renowned cardiovascular surgeon, Dr. Mehmet Oz. Earlier this year he introduced millions of viewers to Reiki, saying it was the number one alternative therapy to try.
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But if not, here's a brief overview. Reiki is a hands-on healing technique from Japan and means "transcendent life force." The practice of Reiki guides this "Ki," or energy, that surrounds and permeates every living thing. Reiki enhances wellness by helping your body balance itself, and enables you to take an active role in your health. How Meditation Led Me To True Love
As a practitioner I place my hands in various positions on or above my client, acting as a channel for the Reiki (or Ki) to move through, clearing and enhancing the energy throughout the client's body, according to what he or she needs. During sessions people often experience a deep feeling of relaxation and warmth. In addition, one of the great things about the system of Reiki is that anyone can learn to use it on themselves, and daily self-care is an empowering component.
While Reiki can be effective with a range of physical and emotional issues, (clients see me for help with stress, anxiety, insomnia, back pain, and depression, to name a few) I've also had many come to me for help with love and relationships. I've highlighted 10 key ways Reiki can help below:
1. Be present
In a Reiki session, focusing on the placement of the practitioner's hands and any accompanying sensations can deeply root you into paying attention to the present moment. After receiving or practicing Reiki regularly, it can help you be in the present moment more often, allowing you to enjoy the journey of dating, for example, rather than spending your time obsessing over "where this is going," and trying to predict the future.
2. Be yourself
Just like your mother always told you. Reiki helps you stay centered in yourself, rather than trying to be what someone else wants you to be. It's often hard to love and value ourselves but Reiki can help you truly connect to that best part of yourself. If you're centered and feeling good about who you are, you'll attract healthy relationships.
3. Let go
Yes, just like the Sting song—"if you love someone set them free." Reiki helps with neediness—rather than being clingy, Reiki helps you connect to yourself and something higher than yourself (Spirit, Universal Energy, God, whatever you want to call it), instead of relying on someone else to fill a void.
4. Have an aha moment
Reiki can help you gain clarity, tap into your intuition, and discover your inner wisdom. I've had clients come to me to gain clarity about what they need from a relationship (e.g. with a boyfriend or girlfriend, husband or wife, or another family member). It can also give you big-picture perspective to better assess if your relationship is working or if something needs to change.
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5. Align what we say we want and what we really want
You know when there's something you really want—say, a healthy relationship, or a specific goal, or a challenge to overcome? And even though it's a positive thing, you can feel in your body where you hold resistance to it. Maybe because change can be scary, maybe because it stretches you to grow, but from whatever place that this resistance is coming from, Reiki can be very effective at softening and helping you let go of it.