Advice: 9 Things I Wish I'd Known Before Marriage


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Women reveal what marriage has taught them about relationships, and what wish they'd known before.

So you've met Mr. Oh-So-Right, and you're pretty sure he's about to pop the question. Or maybe he already has, and you're halfway done planning your wedding. You've been dreaming about married life and. . . stop right there.

You may think you know what your marriage will be like—after all, you're in love, you've been living together for two years, you've met his family, know his favorite ice cream flavor and the list goes on. But the truth is, you never know how a marriage will turn out. People grow and change, and so do relationships. While you can't tell exactly how things will change, you can at least know where those changes might occur.


As your faithful guide in dating, marriage and beyond, YourTango has collected quotes from nine women about what they wish they had known before they got married. Live, learn, and be prepared.

1. Sex gets better! "I wish I'd known that sex improves over time. Everyone says that sex is only good at the beginning, but we have found that it actually gets better as we get older." - Sandra, 42, Social Worker, Married 17 Years

2. Intimacy stinks. "Hair and smells follow wedding bells. When you live with someone on a permanent basis, you really get to understand what it is like to live with another person. Some things are not the most pleasant." - Tracy, 31, Analyst, Married 2 Years

3. Say what? "Communication styles for men and women are so different. I wish I'd known that trying to change the way the other person communicates was not necessarily going to work long-term. Of course, I'm still going to try!" – Leah, 43, School Counselor, Married 21 Years Which Love Language Do You Speak?

4. It's all about the money, honey. "Money can be a major issue in a marriage, and men and women are completely different in how they deal with money. These are things I sort of knew before we got married, but you really have to work through some life events before you really understand how men and women handle situations." – Julie, 44, Librarian, Married 20 Years

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