We men, by nature, don't come equipped with the "know how" on
attracting women. It's not something we're hardwired with. We see a
beautiful woman, we're attracted to her, and we want her. So what do we
do? We do the only thing we know:
We compliment her, buy her drinks (and dinner) and bend over
backwards to keep her from getting annoyed or angry with us. All in
exchange for a relationship or a physical payoff.
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It makes sense right?
The only thing you're accomplishing is looking like a "nice guy".
But women like and want a "nice guy"... Right?
Women might tell you all day long that all they want is a "nice
guy", but they can't manage to do anything but date a bunch of jerks...
Well, lets think about this for a minute. How many of your friends are
pretty "nice guys"? How many of them compliment women, buy them drinks,
say and do nice things for them?
A lot of them?... Maybe even ALL of them? I bet you'd say they're all pretty "nice guys".
Now, why do I keep putting "nice guys" in quotations?
Because complimenting a woman, buying her drinks, and doing "nice"
things for her do not make you a nice guy, they make you a wuss. They
make you an insecure boy instead of a strong, confident man.
Now I know this is a pretty strong statement to make, and you might
be getting a little pissed off, but hear me out. I think you're
intelligent enough to put the pieces together.
When you compliment,do nice things, etc, for a woman you're not in a
relationship with, all you're REALLY doing is trying to buy her
affection. You're trying to make her attracted to you. You're trying to
make her LIKE you. You're trying to show her you're a nice, sweet,
caring guy, because that's what women want... Right?
Do your friends like you? Do they think you're a pretty good guy? Yea?
Do you buy them gifts, take them out to dinner, or compliment on how handsome they are every time you see them?
Well why not? You're just being a "nice guy"...
Look, when you first meet a woman, she'll know what kind of man
you are within just a few short minutes. Women are extremely good at
sizing men up quickly, because they do it so much. They have so many
offers that they have to sort through all their options to pick the
best. What do you think MOST men do to try and win a woman over?
That's right, they COMPLIMENT her, BUY her things, and do NICE things.
Guess what that makes them to women?
Average, normal, BORING, unattractive.
If you want a woman to find you different in a desirable way, you
need to prove to her that you are different in a desirable way, and
buying her things and complimenting her are not how ya do it.
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Think about that.
Attraction is not a choice...