Why Being A Submissive Wife Is Hot

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Why Being A Submissive Wife Is Hot
You can be a submissive wife and have hot sex.

My husband and I have a fairly traditional marriage. I stay home with the kids and he goes out into the world and "slays dragons."  (Well, he works for the local gas and water company, but "slays dragons" sounds more edgy, doesn't it?)  We are your typical chaotic family. On any given day, I'm breaking up sibling squabbles, staring into my pantry to see if the "dinner fairy" has again overlooked me, and trying to tame the calendar. Oh, I also clean up the dog poop. Besides his regular job, my husband juggles his fair share of home responsibilities too--cars, lawns, broken stuff, clogged pipes and precarious "about to fall" tree limbs. In addition to all this, we care for two elderly family members.

My husband and I are Christians and therefore I believe that it is my calling to be a "submissive" wife. So what does submission look like for me? I am submissive in that while my husband and I openly discuss all major decisions that impact our family, I ultimately yield to his decisions. We agree on some things; we disagree on other things. That's marriage, but when it comes down to deciding time, I defer to him. Certainly submission does not mean going against what I believe is right or moral.  For example, if a husband tells his wife she should "steal," then she would be completely justified in not submitting to him.  And submission absolutely does not mean a woman should overlook abuse (either of herself or her children).

But I do seek my husband's advice and opinion and defer to him on many decisions. I believe that he is the head of the house and I respect his leadership role. This isn't hard for me. I am fortunate to have a husband who "loves his wife as Christ loved the church," which is part of a verse from the Bible (Ephesians 5:21-32) that instructs husbands to care for their wives. So, despite what many people think, submission for me is not so hard. The life of a submissive wife is a daily reality for many Christian couples. And I wouldn't exchange roles for anything. In fact, our traditional roles and Christian values have led to a great sex life.

So what does this have to do with sex?

Let me clarify that when I say "submission" in regards to sexual intimacy, I am not talking about a wife automatically doing whatever her husband wants sexually, especially if what he wants flies in the face of what the Bible commands.  For example, if your husband wants to have a threesome or wants you to view pornography, this would be adulterous, which certainly is outside the bounds of God's design for sex. If, on the other hand, your husband simply wants to try a new position or add some variety, I urge you to not instantly say "no" without some legitimate discussion and prayer.