In defense of fantasies big, small and sports related, I write this reflection. I guess that making up ideas about "what could be" might cause some problems for some couples. To which, I say, that fantasies can help you hone in on and release emotions if you do, indeed, have the right outlet. A grown man wanting to run a professional sports team really isn't that bad considering all of the other ideas fantasies could include. Here are some ideas about what things make up a fantasy.
Any of my relatives could tell you that if I ever were to end up on a derserted tropical island, wandering aimlessly, with perfect hair, I would (no doubt) find Alex Rodriguez walking the breaking waves carrying a blender. Well, the morning after, his cell phone washes up onto the beach, starts ringing and it will be his daughters telling him to start walking east, then he actually sprints that way. Almost simultaneously, the cruise ship that I apparently fell out of gently approaches in the beautiful ocean behind me and I'm saved! What? There's nothing wrong with a lost married woman sharing a few tropical fruits, on a hot, yet breezy tropical island with a divorced baseball player, is there?
Is there a quality, quantity or level of aquaintance limit to the person/people in your fantasies? Hmm? Next.
I really don't think that I'll be getting busy on the field of the Georgia Dome like Ludacris wants to (from his song What's Your Fantasy) or anything, but if you're going to dream about traveling, dream big. Mine are pretty modest and don't think that they are illegal. (But maybe) I might have one that has something to do with the flatbed of an awesome truck on the way to Las Vegas or a mortorcycle on the beach, Top Gun style. Anyway, a good destination might make for a more plausible fantasy, but I guess that would be up to your partner.
Could you bond more with somebody by making an effort to have their fantasy (at least the location) come true?
This component to a fantasy is perhaps the most exciting, yet the most dangerous. The only way that I can explain this is, that sometimes people like to feel the rush of conquest or the satisfaction of just doing something opposite of what they are used to. I guess that the safest way to fullfill a "I want something different" fantasy is to role play. But, what if somebody would rather just go after somebody different?
So what are the options about just wanting a rush?
The Dingy Ones