@Patiomensch and I, @Bohopoetgirl, have been following each other on Twitter since mid 2008. In January, 2010, a month after I moved up to the shoreline of Connecticut, I saw him tweet about going to something called Books and Bars. I love both books and bars, so I replied, "I want to go!"
"Move to Minnesota?" he replied, which will forever be hashtagged in the #irony section of my memory.
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This exchange began a flurry of tweets, then Facebook messages, texting and IM'ing—lots of IM'ing. We're both in our late 20s (I'm 28, he's 27) and both work in word-based industries (I'm a writer, he's a proofreader). We like a lot of the same writers and have even memorized some of the same poems. Things were going well—at least, online they were.
Men I met in real life had no chance compared to the projected perfection of my internet lover. It was so much easier to talk to him behind the screen of the computer, which led me to believe it was so much easier to talk to him period. I had spent my life searching for my prince charming, and I was sure I had found him. On January 31, Patrick said we should meet. I agreed.
Within a week he was ready to buy a plane ticket to meet me. My mom suggested we wait a little longer, so we picked April 15 as our meet-up date. The Pros And Cons of Long-Distance Dating
On February 13, he typed, "I've been doing a lot of thinking about what's been going on between us. I've wondered if you're attracted to a mirage, or if I am. The conclusion I've come to is to go into this. I'm with you on it if you're with me.
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I was. "I wish I could just crawl into the screen and land on the other side," I wrote back.
Don't Believe Everything You Tweet
Twitter provides a feeling of really knowing someone. You know what they're doing, what they're thinking and what they're eating for lunch. It provides a pseudo-intimacy that doesn't always translate to real life. Patrick called Twitter "a living representation of your personality." But it's not complete—it's only what you are willing to put on a public internet forum.