Dan, a hardworking father of fifteen-year-old twins, was single for over a year before he started dating again. "It's not that I didn't want to meet someone. I had no idea where to begin," he said. "I was married for 18 years." For most single parents, the dating world has changed drastically since the days when they were single. Online dating, speed dating, and matchmaking have taken the dating world by storm. In order to catch up, Dan joined an online dating service but unfortunately, finding someone new wasn't as easy as everyone said it would be. A careful review of Dan's information revealed some common mistakes that many single fathers make when looking for love online. The biggest of which is the online profile and photos. Remember, the only information that a woman has at this point is what you tell (or show) them. If you're ready for the world of cyber dating, follow these do's and don'ts to increase your odds of meeting someone new.
The Profile Pics
Dads, don't post a photo of your college beer chugging days or one where your overgrown chest hairs are hanging out of your favorite button down shirt. A clothed full-length body shot or a photo of your face is all you need. If you want to include a nice moment with you and your child, that's fine too. For the best impression, spend a few extra dollars and invest in professional quality headshots. One company getting rave reviews right now is DatingHeadshots.com. With photos that look natural and un-staged, the company claims that 87% of their clients report more dating success.
P.S. If you opt to include no photo, be forewarned that responses are usually low no matter how well you can write.
Many men make confessions about their past relationships in their written profile. "I was married for 5 years to a woman who was a jealous, controlling tyrant." "I caught my ex in bed with my best friend." This is too much information for a stranger to hear. Also, off-limits is the honeymoon, wedding or photo with your ex-wife, no matter how good you looked in your tux that day. Now is the time to impress not cause unrest. You'd be surprised how often single fathers do this.