Dating Red Flags: 5 Signs He's A Control Freak

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Red flag warning! Are you dating a control freak?

At first it might have been charming: he orders for you on dates, wards off creepy guys at the bar, wants to protect you. What girl doesn't like being taken care of? But there's a thin line between wanting what's best for you and deciding what's best for you.

Whether he's jealous, chauvinistic or just plain insecure, there's no excuse for controlling behavior. A healthy relationship consists of respect and support, not one person calling all the shots. 10 Signs He's Not The One

After going through women's most cringe-worthy submissions, the editors behind The Little Black Blog of Big Red Flags chose the five biggest signs that you're dating a control freak. While these red flags may not be deal breakers, we suggest you proceed with awareness. After all, if you pay attention, no one can tell you, "I told you so."

1. He critiques everything you do. Often under the guise of wanting to help you, whether it's to improve an area of your life or to keep you from embarrassing yourself, men who find a way of criticizing your behavior and choices are flexing their control muscle. 

Big Red Flag Story: "While out to dinner with a guy I had been dating for a few months, he asked if he could show me something. He then proceeded to teach me how to eat properly. Being British, he couldn't stand the vulgar way Americans hold their forks and knives while eating. After teaching me how to hold my silverware, he told me that he wanted me to eat the 'British way' for the remainder of dinner."

2. He tells you what to do with your own body. Whether it's monitoring what you eat, convincing you to take pole dancing or preventing you from getting a tattoo, there's a point when his concern for your health and appearance can become obsessive.

Big Red Flag Story: "I once dated a guy who forbade me from using tampons. The reason? He didn't want anything inside me but him."

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