Ever wonder why you date men that seem perfect—only to find out they're completely wrong for you? If you keep falling for that sexy man in a suit (your boss) or the one you were crazy to let get away (your ex), perhaps your feelings aren't for the individuals at all—you're hooked on the setting. Love is all about right place, right time. Or when it comes to the following men, wrong place, wrong time.
"We often confuse love with danger and infatuation," explains Sherry Amatenstein, relationship expert and author of The Complete Marriage Counselor. "When we set ourselves up for situations that are certain to fail we can say, 'Whoops, another relationship didn’t work out' and not blame ourselves." In actuality, however, this failure was a result of our poor choices.
The next time you find yourself Facebook-stalking any of the following, Amatenstein advises that you ask yourself if you're really just hot for someone completely unattainable. Because unrequited love is the last thing any of us needs.
Your Roommate's Boyfriend
You know it's naughty. But there's something kind of fun about changing from sweats to hotpants every time he's over. He's flirting with you, so what's the harm in flirting back?
"This is all about the allure of what we can't have," agrees Amatenstein. Your roommate's boyfriend—or anyone in a relationship with someone you know—may be hotter than Robert Pattinson, but moving in on someone else's territory, especially when the two of you live in close quarters, is not only dangerous for your heart, but also for your home. If you move forward with this relationship, you risk turning your home life into a living hell. You have a lot to lose, and all you're gaining is a guy with pretty questionable morals.
Danger rating: Medium. Remember, it isn't just about you and him. It's also about destroying your relationship with your roommate. Plus, "if he cheats on his present girlfriend," says Amatenstein, "won't he do it to you, too?"