Be prepared — and avoid awkwardness and stress.
So you've decided to take the plunge and have a sleepover with the person your new boyfriend. Whether it's actually just sleeping or the first time you two do the deed, a first sleepover with someone new is stressful. Follow these tips for an evening of more fun and less anxiety about the things that could go awry.
If you even suspect that an overnight could happen, take the proper grooming precautions like shaving, deodorizing, exfoliation, moisturizing and attractive undergarment selection. In other words, whatever it takes for you to personally feel confident.
Don't worry too much about seeming over-prepared; he probably won't notice if you've brought a toothbrush or deodorant. Purses these days are big enough to hide small children — why not stow an extra pair of underwear or a clean shirt to avoid the "walk of shame" feeling and even allow you to go straight to work without sending up any red flags at the office?
3. Confront Your Fears.
Allowing yourself to fall asleep next to a guy means your body is out of your control for a few hours and snoring, talking in your sleep, and, yes, farting are all very real concerns. Don't drink too much — this will make your body even more out of control during your hours of slumber. If you have issues with gas, face them head-on and bring an antacid or gas inhibitor, at least for peace of mind if nothing else. Also (and this is just a suggestion) maybe hold off on copious amounts of beans or cabbage at dinner. Nothing new on race day, right? And remember, whatever your body does, his probably does worse. Knowing men, he'll probably promptly pass out and start sawing logs, totally oblivious to your little sleeping "tics."
4. Have An Escape Plan.
If things don't go well or you don't want to risk overstaying your welcome, have an excuse you feel comfortable using to get out of there. This is tricky because you don't want to jump the gun and announce you have to go "work," "meet a friend," or "clean your oven" if the possibility of cuddling in bed or getting breakfast together is appealing. Feel it out. If you two are enjoying each other, go with it. But at the same time, you're a busy lady, and if you need to go, go. Being independent is always empowering.
5. Remember Why You're There In The First Place.
You like this guy right? The name of the game is to have fun and connect with someone. Also, most guys worry that we think they're filthy slobs and, well, many of them are. So while we worry about keeping our bodies under perfect control, he might be shy about his sink full of dishes, mildew-prone shower or choice of decor. So prepare as best you can, then forget about acting perfect and just enjoy the moment; excessive self-consciousness will only get in the way of enjoying each other anyway!