If you're on antidepressants, chances are, the person you're dating will find out. (If they don't, then you're really good about keeping a secret, and maybe they should be worrying about something else.) Maybe it's not a big deal, and maybe your partner is even on medication. But for some women, this discovery can become a pivotal point in the relationship. As someone who has been on antidepressants for more than half of my life, I've dealt with this confrontation on several occasions. Some of the men I've dated have appeared to not care, or just didn't feel like delving into the emotional side of why (that's fine—not like I enjoy explaining these things). Others have suddenly looked at me differently, as if the confident, charismatic woman I am didn't come from within, but from a pill. The Frisky: Should I Have Told My Boyfriend's Parents That I Was Depressed?
Even in a society that's become more and more accepting of mood-stabilizing meds (and recently, even questioning if they do jack), they can become game-changers in relationships. Several of my female friends have identified with this, in the most extreme cases citing "freak outs" from their boyfriends, or new behavior in which they were treated as "fragile," or the treatment of smaller issues as much larger because of her "questionable emotional health and issues." The Frisky: Is This What Happiness Feels Like?
In some instances, uncomfortable moments have come about simply from ignorance or a lack of understanding. Says one 20-something female friend: The Frisky: My Girlfriend's Going Off Her Meds. How Can I Help?
After three weeks of dating someone, he saw me take my meds, Wellbutrin, in the morning—two pills from two separate bottles. The bathroom door was open; I wasn't trying to hide anything. As I was swallowing, he said in a scared and worried voice, 'Wow ... you take a lot of pills.' I replied, 'No. I take one medication, two capsules that have different doses.' He seemed relieved, although, who really knows." The Frisky: MERRIMe, A New Web Comedy About Online Dating