Facebook, like nuclear technology, is a tool that can be used for good as well as evil. And there are clearly some people who lack the ability (or desire) to use either responsibly.
One of my all-time favorite Facebook stories involved a recent college graduate backtracking it to the old Alma Mater (it wasn't Tucker Max) on a recruiting trip. He went to a neighborhood watering hole, flashed some of that first-year cash and, later, worked on his night moves with a fine, young coed. Unfortunately, he knew she was going to Facebook (it's a verb now) him and he still had a few days in College Town, USA. So, he did the prudent thing and changed his status to Single. He and his old old girl were on the rocks and he thought he'd enjoy the rest of the trip. This was how now ex-girlfriend found out. She was dumped by Facebook.
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And because this is neither Vietnam nor the Wild West, we decided to implement some rules of etiquette for Mark Zuckerberg's handiwork. Here are the top 10 rules of etiquette for using Facebook responsibly in and around relationships:
10) Relationship status is a mutual decision. As illustrated above, lots of problems can arise from a unilateral status change. All of your friends get that update in real time, not a fun way to find out that the dream is over.
9) It's OK to look through your friend's friends for people you might want to meet/ date/ friend. It's not OK to skip the middleman on the introduction. I get freaked out when anyone I don't know tries to friend** me. I assume they're trying to sell me something, stalking me or both. As always, be mindful of friend-poaching, it's not cool.
8) Ask first before friending a close friend's ex-squeeze. It's common courtesy and it's part of the Bro Code.
7) It's OK to remain friends with someone you used to date on Facebook. We can be grownups about this. Just prepare yourself to see some status updates that you could probably do without.
6) Posting a ton of pics, vids and comments regarding a recent, failed relationship is a bad idea. If you need a lifeline, phone a friend don't ask the audience.