Talk about tough love: one survey shows that how much attention an online dater gets is all about how he/she looks in her profile picture.
OKCupid.com recently posted a pretty thorough blog on their site analyzing—literally, with graphs and charts—who gets the most messages on their dating site and why. We're sure the idealistic creators hoped to find that Kierkegaard-reading folks who volunteer at the local animal shelter (despite their mediocre looks) are most popular. Alas, it was the traditionally hot hotties who get the most messages. Color us shocked. Are You Hot Enough For This Dating Site?
The author of the post provided us with examples of high scorers (long-haired, doe-eyed women and stoic, sharp-jawed men) and a few examples of the mediocre (people who quite honestly looked barely a notch or two below the "best-looking"). Facial Attraction: Choice Of Sexual Partner Shaped The Human Face
Kittenish-looking ladies with full inboxes aside, one of the most interesting revelations was that female online daters tend to be more conservative and men more liberal in their beauty standards.
One of the charts documented how a sample of men and women rated each other on a scale from one to five. One being hideous and five being gorgeous. The arc looked pretty traditional for men. A smaller amount of uglies, a pretty generous portion for mediocres and narrowed slit for the drop-dead. Women, on the other hand, found 80 percent (80 percent!) of the men on OKCupid as below average in looks. Online Dating Coaches Help Us Maximize Our Upside
Even more curious, women message the mediocre-to-below-average guys more then the Ken dolls. Fellas (but of course) troll away crafting witty e-mails to the ladies on the 5-end of the scale. Regardless of where the men themselves fall aesthetically, mind you. Oh, biology!
The bottom line? Sexy, pouty ladies are likely to wake up to a mess of "hey how are you" messages. The site reports that hot women get 28 times the messages of uglier gals, where a macho man get 11 times the messages of an average joe.