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How TV Made Us Root For Cheaters

"Mad Men" has made us cheer for a cheating husband.

We cannot get over the Mad Men season 3 series finale. Thought #1: Best show on TV since Six Feet Under. Thought #2: WTF, Betty Draper? Thought #3: Why are we rooting for the cheat-bag Don Draper anyway?
 
Now, we know. We know that it's about time that Betty stand up for herself. The character's ability to make you love and loathe her simultaneously is a gift from the writers. (And unfortunately, not the actor, January Jones. Pretty girl, but we hear Jon Hamm hates working with her…He totally carries every scene. But anyway…) Ex Ashton Told January Jones To Quit Acting
 
It's the Betty Draper Paradox. One minute you love Betty for standing up for herself, for throwing the shoebox of pictures and evidence of Don's former life on the kitchen table, for refusing to ignore her husband's lies and cover-up.
 
Then, on the other hand you think, c'mon, Betty. If Don can knowingly romp with one girl after the next (all striking brunettes, may we add) under the guise of happily married man, why can't you do the same? Have your affairs, but keep the family intact. Every male Mad Men character is a philanderer. Even if this is pre-women's movement, Betty could revolutionize the American marriage by doing the same. Open Marriage: Love vs. Sex
 
But she'd never. We'd like to think it's because Betty stands for something more. That she's unwillingly to do something morally offensive. She's going forward with a divorce because she wants a better life. But really she's just a spoiled brat. One that has to ruin everything if she doesn't get her way. We feel nothing for her, while we're sympathetic to Don. We truly can't blame her, but at the same time, we're mourning the loss of the Draper marriage.  Divorce Busting: A Step-by-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again
 
The writers must truly be gifted, considering we're routing for the cheating husband. We want Don Draper to have whatever he wants. If that means a Barbie doll housewife available for grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup and weekend picnics, then so be it. Oh, Mad Men writers, what have you done to us?
 
What do you think readers? Is Betty doing the right thing by breaking up the marriage?
 
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mrsben19 Married
Posted 1 week ago

Sex and the City did the same thing. Carrie broke up the marriage between Big and Natasha, and viewers everywhere still had nothing but compassion for Carrie. I think it's the mark of a really well-written show when you can have a character who crosses moral boundaries but still has an audience cheering for them.

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Posted 1 week ago

The television has really affected as in more ways than one. Did anyone catch the V TV series 2009 premiere? It was good – which is surprising for a remake. For those who missed the memo – the V TV series 2009 is indeed a remake, the original came out back in the 80s. The first miniseries was in 1983. A sequel came out in 1984, and then a TV show in late 1984.) ABC broadcast the return of the Visitors during the World Series, and it was awesome. No word on when a guinea pig will be eaten or alien babies will be birthed yet – but the producers say we will! If the rest of the V TV series 2009 are as good, instant cash for the DVD would be worth it.

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Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted 1 week ago

I don't think tit-for-tat is empowering. I think Betty's right. Maybe the reason we cheer on Don is because we all want that for ourselves. We are all innately selfish.

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BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted 2 weeks ago

Well, I'm freaking out over here. Her husband doesn't love her and treats her like dirt, but she should suck it up to keep the family together? That sounds kind of "pre-feminist movement" to me. You want to revolutionize the American marriage by having affairs so that couples can stay together for the sake of the children? I'm not big on divorce, but that sounds excrutiatingly painful to me - and very retro.

How is it not getting your way to complain when the guy who promised to love and cherish you till death do you part is having sex with lots of other women and lying to you about it? Don Draper ruined his marriage, not Betty.

As for Betty, a 1960's housewife about to get divorced - she's in deep mud financially. Back in those days everything belonged to the husband: house, car, credit record, his income. She hasn't worked in a while and she may not have finished her education. Spoiled brats aren't brave enough to put happiness above financial comfort.

The series must have some pretty good writers. And us 21st century women are in for a bad time of it if Don Draper becomes the new standard of behavior.

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