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Fat is Bad for Married Sex

By Matilda posted Nov 7th 2009 8:43PM

Does the idea of having sex with your fat spouse really get you excited? With the exception of a few people with “fat fetishes”, having sex with your fat wife or husband either feels obligatory, or meets the bare standard of releasing your pent-up sexual desire. The overweight partner has even greater issues when it comes to sex, which often goes beyond the psychological. The desire to have sex with a trim sexy partner isn’t a fabricated Hollywood myth; the science behind sexual interest in fit bodies is real and has been confirmed over and over, it is undeniable to a reasonable person.
Body types figure strongly in what gets people turned on sexually, this results from fact that we are hard wired to find healthy mates who are more able to bear, and subsequently take care of offspring. Studies show that there is a stronger correlation for men finding females attractive according to “BMI” than the much vaunted Waist to Hips Ratio (i.e. sexy curves). The “ideal” BMI peaks around 17 or 18. The attempt to qualify this obvious conclusion, as “media brainwashing” is delusional. The “fat acceptance” movement seeks to force people to be find overweight people attractive through politically correct pressures. This effort is doomed to failure because it denies the biological nature of sex and reproduction. An attempt by a wife or husband to guilt, or attack their partner for desiring a sexy mate, is just as doomed to fail.

In addition to being considered unattractive because of excess fat, an overweight spouse can often times have an aversion to sex, for several reasons. Physical and emotional issues are both factors in this aversion to having sex. Nearly 50 percent of those seeking treatment for obesity said they sometimes, usually or always felt NO desire for sex, compared to just 2 percent of those who were not obese. About four out of every 10 treatment-seekers reported physical problems with sex, according to a Duke University study. When it comes to a couples sex life the data certainly supports “fat isn’t fit!”