Bachelorette Parties: Good Fun Or Menace?
Has the hen party passed the stag party in terms of debauchery?
It appears as if the bachelorette party is here to stay. For a hot minute I thought that at the corner of Girls Gone Wild, gender convergence and the wide acceptance of phallic-shaped cakes these fetes would go the way of the dodo. But no—hen parties are not going anywhere and they are not f*cking around. Read: Bachelorette Party Dos and Don'ts
Observationally, bachelor parties have been getting slightly milder (The Hangover notwithstanding). Long gone are the days of filling a hotel suite with hookers, unhappily married buddies and one woman willing to do something unholy with a four-legged animal. Today's dudes go for a trip to the strip club, 36 holes of golf, booze-induced wistfulness and steaks the size of a toilet seat. Or maybe I'm just getting old. Read: The New Bachelor Party
Either way the ladies seem to be closing the rowdiness gap. This past calendar year I have bumped into several bachelorette celebrations that I would describe as "marauding." In New Orleans, I was minding my own business and nursing a hangover nicknamed "shame" when a hurricane of lady Bacchanalians descending upon me and my friends. Within minutes, we were fielding an onslaught of requests, and the badgering didn't stop until these ladies gained dollar bills for t-shirt-borne candies and a pair of boxing shorts. Because I love my buddies, I accepted the "give us your underpants, funny man" challenge. That said, taking off your underwear in a quarter inch of New Orleans bathroom water with no stall doors is an experience I'm not anxious to repeat. Read: Bride Auctions Off Bridesmaid Spot
I've been confronted with the underpants scavenger hunt before and it's weird for me. Not because I feel sexually harassed or am worried about the cleanliness of my drawers, but because I feel like I have to crank my rowdiness up to 11 and because I hate riding out commando. Read: Jailed Groom Nearly Misses Wedding Because Of Bachelor Party Stunt
I have three pieces of advice for bachelorette parties:
1) Have a plan. Use this App from Sexy Slang: Click here to get it.
2) Use the buddy-system and DO NOT LOSE THE BRIDE.
3) Antes te cases, lo mire a que haces.
Please hit the comments with fun bachelorette party stories.
Discussion
Honestly, not that I LOVE debauchery myself, but every once in a while it's ok to party like a rockstar. And it's about time the girls made guys a little uncomfortable and partied back a little bit. There's a fine line between being virtuous for oneself and attempting to be so in order to have men take you seriously.
Not being rowdy will only benefit a woman when she is dealing with an already non-rowdy guy. If she is dealing with a party guy, no matter how faithful and virtuous she is, he will always remain a party guy. As I heard in one of my criminal justice classes, only a significant emotional event can change someone's ways, whatever they may be.
I indeed feel bad for shy guys who aren't party-crazy themselves, but for those who party at all costs and could care less that they have a girl who is bothered by it, and is more virtous than he by nature.... those guys deserve to know they have met their match.
Again, not that I think debauchery is all that great, I'm just happy that some wild chicks are in a sense, sticking it to the man. I am just very much for equality in as many ways as possible.
I believe in having fun, and it has earned me a reputation at times sometimes simply by coming off as a party girl. I dunno, still figuring out who I really want to be (I'm 22), but I know one thing for sure, I'm going to have most if not all the fun I want to have (provided I don't hurt others, i.e. cheating, sleeping with taken guys) and that is one reason I don't judge wild guys simply because they love to party.
I will just never agree that girls should be held to different decency/debauchery standards.
The only wild guys I have something against are those that lie/are nice to girls/ and worst of all, act as though they are legitimately interested in them--- just to get sex. Or the ones that are dating non-party girls and they go out and party all the time, regardless of what their girls think (happened between my parents). Partying is ok, but being a scumbag about it and caring only for yourself is unnacceptable and EVERY BIT as low and dirty as a girl who has earned the nickname "slut". Guys are hypocrites. Girls should respect themselves strictly for themselves, not for the purpose of ensuring guys have a good opinion of them.
It's tough being a girl, especially a young one. I simply read this article and find it hilarious that some women are not afraid of being seen in a bad light because of bachelorette party debauchery and finally some men (those crazy party guys) can get a nervous taste of their own medicine... they can wonder if their party was wilder than their future wives' or not... lol
Great comment, angelikasyn. I think most people act a little different on their bach/ bach-ette party for the benefit of their friends AND because being an idiot is sometimes fun when it's what's expected.
The thing I've always thought was funny was seeing photos of girls with guy strippers who look really into it and say, "oh, I just think it's funny,"... riiiiiight.
Also, being a big, fat party animal, I definitely agree with you about having the most fun as possible and I feel enough pride in my fun-having that I have to crank it up to 11 when someone asks for my underoos.
Thanks for reading and thanks for commenting.
