9 Tips For Marital Bliss
What married couples need to know to keep the love alive.
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes decades of time together strewn with a minefield of potential relationship wreckers. It's a wonder that anyone ends up walking off into the sunset, hand-in-wrinkled-hand, with a silver-haired mate. What do those geriatric lovebirds know that you don't?
Well, the truth is that even in so-called happy marriages, both partners probably fantasize some of the time—or even much of the time—about throwing in the towel. A new Woman's Day and AOL Living poll found that a shocking 72 percent of women surveyed have considered leaving their husbands at some point. But despite the occasional rocky patch, 71 percent expected to be with their husbands for the rest of their lives. So how do you make it to the finish line with your relationship intact?
Each decade will have its own drama, be it child-rearing, layoffs, second careers, and middle-aged angst, along with a big helping of the in-sickness-and-in-health stuff. Here's how to have a healthy relationship every step of the way.
1. Watch your waistline
Now that you're married, you can finally relax and skip the gym, right? Wrong. Wedded couples tend to have fatter waistlines, which can spell trouble in terms of sexual attraction and general health. A 2007 study published in the New England Journal of Medicine found that your chances of becoming obese increase by 37 percent if your spouse becomes obese. So unless you want "till death do us part" to include chronic health issues like heart disease and diabetes, it's important to establish healthy eating habits early on. But warding off weight gain isn't as simple as whipping up a healthy meal together. Eating with anyone—from your spouse to coworker—can cause you to consume 33 percent more than you would solo.
Being aware of the potential fatty pitfalls of marital bliss may be enough to keep your portion sizes in check. Spend couple time checking out local farmers' markets on the weekends in an effort to consumer fresher, low-calorie fare. Or schedule an exercise date to work off some of your hearty, homemade dinners.
2. Have a financial plan
Nearly 40 percent of married people admit to lying to their spouse about a purchase, according to a 2004 poll, and money woes can quickly send your marriage south. In fact, money is the number-one reason couples fight, and relationships tend to suffer during poor economies. You should discuss and agree upon some hard financial ground rules, preferably before you tie the knot.
Don't fret if you're a spendthrift and your partner pinches pennies. "It's probably not a good thing to have the exact same philosophy about money," says Ken Robbins, MD, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the University of Wisconsin–Madison. "But financial issues are best to resolve early on. You want to decide who is going to pay the bills, how much discretionary spending is reasonable, and how you're going to keep track of it all."
Discussion
and now with some all important "pointers" for females: http://manhood101.com/forum/viewtopic.php?f=18&t=644
1. learn to submit to a man who you intend on being in a relationship with. if he values you, he will respect your input, but ultimately he will have the final say. this is because he bears the responsibility for the relationship.
2. put out.. a really great way to lose a man is to withhold sex. lots of girls like to hold sex over a man's head as relationship leverage. that will work with lesser men who have zero manhood. but attractive men have OPTIONS. they don't need to be held hostage by ONE vagina when there are millions of vaginas in the world.
your man's penis is as valuable to him as your emotions are to you-- if you take care of it, he will take care of you. if you neglect it, he will neglect you.
3. be open to meeting men... there are lots of men around. but women don't understand the word: OPPORTUNITY-- women like to plan. they like to have every detail mapped out ahead of time. this is a childish impulse to control everything. this is especially detrimental since women are not designed to exercise such control. controlling requires responsibility and we know that women and responsibility go together like oil & water.
as a result, women shoot themselves in the foot by neglecting the many opportunities they have to meet men.
worry less about your vanity and more about your opportunity; women often make the mistake of meeting people, wondering what OTHER people will think of their man. not whether THEY are enjoying the man.
4. if you believe that men of high status are much more worthy of dating than men of low status, you're a hooker because you've attached a price tag to yourself. and hookers usually end up getting suckered in the end.
telling a woman to date for quality instead of status is like telling a child to eat healthy food instead of candy; most will end up learning the hard way.
forget about a man's means; such things can be faked. i should know. i've done it. concentrate on a man's character. on his personality. there's a difference between liking someone for how they make you feel vs. liking someone for who they are.
5. a man is designed to bear you as his responsibility. you in turn should do whatever you can to support his decision to bear you as a responsibility. i.e. RECIPROCATE: learn to cook. clean the f*****g house. wash the dishes. do some laundry. suck his dick. make him happy to have you.
nagging and complaining are great ways to make him regret and forget your name.
6. show appreciation. this is difficult in a society that turns the focus onto women and what they do. but you should be different. you should not remind him of Feminism's stranglehold over society. you should cause him to be relieved that you're not like other women.
7. make yourself attractive. forget about the makeup and the fake tits and the tan. sure i like a dark tan, but there are more important ways you can f**k up your appearance.
concentrate on not chopping off your hair, not getting chunky, not wearing old mom clothing, keeping yourself in shape and being feminine.
it's not about what you can ADD (fake tits, tons of makeup, purses and shoes), it's what you MAINTAIN (stay in shape, keep the hair nice and long if possible, not dying it, changing it, or chopping it off every week). as a woman, you are already naturally beautiful when you maintain your FEMININE side. adding makeup and other crap to it just covers that natural attractiveness up. sure some guys like makeup, but i'm not one of them, and most like MUCH LESS than you have on if they do like it at all..
8. shut the f**k up. trying to prove how smart you are to a guy is best accomplished by shutting the f**k up. the smartest girls are the ones who LISTEN to men who know much more than they do.. you can always spot the dumb bitches. they have their mouths open constantly (without anything in them.) as a rule of thumb: the louder you are, the less attractive you are. this does not mean you should suppress your personality-- showing that is a plus... but it does mean you should be ready to keep a lid on your mouth when you feel compelled to give advice; check with your man FIRST. there's nothing wrong with getting a second opinion from your man. that's what he's there for.
9. be flexible. being a stubborn bitch does not make you sexy or sassy-- it makes you annoying. children are stubborn. that's why they get spanked.
sometimes you won't always like following your man's decisions. but if he's not telling u to jump off a cliff or kill your mom, if it's not a matter of life or death and it doesn't compromise your core beliefs, then DO IT; he who bears the responsibility has the AUTHORITY. you can put your foot down AFTER you grow a penis, not before.
10. realize that your standards are wrong.
this is from a recent article detailing reasons why girls didn't choose a particular guy:
Quote:
His toes were ashy.
He seems like he’d be a really cool friend, but I don’t know, those lips...
He was wearing a bubble coat, and seriously, it was not that cold.
We had a good conversation, but I like a man to be more aggressive.
That was our second and last date. He used the word “authentic” like 14 times.
How many times do I have to tell you I’m looking for someone TALL and HOT? Keywords being tall and hot.
He drank a hot chocolate instead of coffee. What is he? A 6’4’’12-year-old?
Yeah, he was tall, but his head seemed a little small for his body.
It was loud in there, so I’m not sure. Did I detect a stutter?
Boy, was he sweating!
He seems like someone who would like Star Trek.
I don’t care if he can’t see. He should have left those glasses at the office.
He was dancing (or worse, trying) way too hard.
the point is: women are too childish to set their own dating criteria. this is why women really shouldn't be picking men. men should be picking women.
this last problem isn't really a female responsibility-- women are childish and hold childish dating criteria because PUSSIFIED men ALLOW IT. if men enforced their dating expectations instead of trying to fit into womens' ridiculous dating expectations, they'd actually be more attractive to women, regardless of what silly criteria they initially held. male attractiveness is based upon authority, not the childish laundry list of do's & don't's listed above.
so while your dating criteria/standards are a problem, they're really only going to be solved by men who defy them rather than by your decision to not have them. this is just to make you aware that you do have them.
the unfortunate part is that the majority of men are pussified and will try to fit into your silly/unrealistic dating criteria. it's great for women to be aware of their problems, but they really shouldn't be in charge of solving them anymore than a child should be expected to discipline himself for bad behavior. that is the job of the parent. in this case, it's the man's job to enforce his expectations, not the woman's job to change dysfunctional expectations. if a man is enforcing his functional expectations (related to his authority), the woman will have no choice but to drop her dysfunctional expectations just as a disobedient child being spanked will have no choice but to stop his bad behavior.
I'd also add--remember your please and thank yous. It seems like common knowledge, but after you've seen someone on the toilet and had them fart in your face, little respect things like "please" "thank you" and "you're welcome" kinda fly out the window. Remembering them reminds your spouse that you do respect them and appreciate them.
