So, after seven weeks of silence, my phone rings and my (ex)guy is on the other end. I was busy living my life, so i decided to call him back later. When I did, I was totally unimpressed.
Like we spoke yesterday, he called me sweetie and asked how I was doing, what I've been up to, how my daughter and family were doing, blah blah blah. I was shocked that he even bothered to call. I was going about my life, newly single, and ring ring, it's him.
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Am I a little bitter? Sure. I spent six years being single, and finally got back out there, met this "great" guy, got involved, opened myself up, shared parts of my inner self, things I don't like doing. He made promises and whispered awesome things, took me to nice places, invited me on exotic trips. I put myself out there, and I suppose I got what I deserved.
I'd love to be angry with him. But I'm just mad at myself. I told myself this type of thing would happen, then I convinced myself that I was just being pessimistic. I believed me for a while. Now I see that I was right. Although I have no control over his actions, I could have opted to stay single.
Anywho, he asked when my birthday was (because I'm so memorable) and said he had a gift for me to pick up or that he could drop it off. I should just call when I'm ready. Like I care about a gift. I can't believe he's wasted his money and he's trying to waste me time.
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I know I'm considered to be an unreasonable relationship person by those close to me. I have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to things like this. You disappearing for this long tells me that you don't want to be chased or found. I wouldn't behave this way toward him, therefore, I will not accept this behaviour.
He could sense my irritation on the phone, but only asked if something was wrong. Just like all my other associates, I told him I was fine, but tired. He's no longer privy to my feelings. I no longer wish to speak to him. I may not be skinny or beautiful or extra smiley, but I have my limits and I know I'm worth at least saying "hi" to every couple weeks if we're dating.