Bad Breakup? 10 Things To Remember


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Breaking up hurts. Here, 10 truths to help you get over the hump and back to being happy.

He's the perfect height. He has perfect hands. You love his sister. You love his scent. How can you be with someone who doesn't know how to play the tuba? Or speak French? He is perfect and everything about him is perfect by association. The problem is he doesn't want to be with you. And now you're never going to find love again. Right? Wrong. Here is what you need to remember:

1.    You're supposed to be miserable.
Unhealthy: being so depressed that you don't want to get out of bed without being unable to think of a reason for being so depressed.


Healthy: being so depressed that you don’t want to get out of bed because your boyfriend broke up with you.

Depression is never easy, but in this case it might be a necessary first step in adjusting to a new situation. Indulge in your misery. Rent sad movies, make your friends crazy, listen to Coldplay. Be sad until you get bored of being sad. Eventually you'll realize that being happy is more fun. Depressed: Forget Pills. Try Sex?

2.    He's not dying. You're losing the relationship, not the person. If you love this guy and you need him to be in your life, he can always be in your life, so long as you want him to be. Focus on what's actually going on here, and resist the urge to "awfulize." Though the transition from girlfriend to girl-friend may be unpleasant, the end result is someone in your life who really cares about you, and friendship can last forever.

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