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He's Just Not Into Me?!


So after six and a half years it's all over just like that! It was the most difficult break up I've had. Why? I think I'm still trying to figure that out. I wasn't prepared for it first of all. I really did not see it coming. We have lived together for 6 years and we have not gotten along better than we have for in the past years then all of a sudden he says he wants to separate for a while. How long is that supposed to be? a day a week how long?!
It hasn't been an easy relationship I'll say that. We have different ideas how things should be done, how kids should be raised, how clean the house should be, hell the only thing we did agree on was food and I'm the one that gained a ton of weight!!
I really want to be over this but for some reason I just can't get it into my head that we really don't belong together. He got the best years of my life and I can't get them back. So now what? It is over, I knew it when he said it. I have stepped back and took a look at what I think I did wrong in the relationship. I was too easy and forgiving and let him talk to and treat me badly. That will never happen again. I also have been looking around at the available men and I have to change my standards a little. Just because they are good looking does not mean that they are good guys. We will see where I go from here! Wish me luck!


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