Making The Case Against A Viagra Culture
Viagra helps men fight ED. This much we know. But is that ultimately a good thing?
We don't have the pleasure of owning a man parts, so we can't speak directly about erectile dysfunction or any other such problems. But William Leith, a writer for The Daily Mail (who we're pretty sure owns one), has some out-of-the-box ideas about the sexual wonder drug Viagra and how it may not really help either gender in the sex department. Viagra Boosts Release of "Love Hormone"
The pills, he thinks, may give men a false sense of sexual prowess. While a flaccid penis isn't fun for anyone, does a rock hard member really ensure a good time in the hay for women? He thinks not. Rather, he says, men should sharpen their warm and fuzzy. That's what women really desire. Women Are Confusing Flirts
Like anything that appeals to guys, it [Viagra] works in a mechanical way that's easy to understand. It knocks out an enzyme that blocks the flow of blood. But women are not like men—not when it comes to sex, anyway. For women, sex is not a mechanical business. It's not just about getting the machinery working. It's about all those other things men tend to forget about—meaningful glances and feeling safe and proper conversation and hugging and listening.
Discussion
Men are not machines. If there is a problem like blood flow (or others) should it not be treated? Why is control so important to these women? Many women would like sex and are frustrated by men who use any excuse not to have sex.
Where did the article mention extra marital sex? Is the a male who is writing to appear to British women or women who are control freaks or those opposed to having sex?
I do think that Viagra is a a cheaters drug and even marketed itself as such for a while.(ie, commercials of a younger woman/older man dancing, her without wedding ring and then going up in an elevator together, etc. etc) I
Leith's assumptions about women are way off here. He's talking about men wanting sex once a week. That is not a huge, new demand. There should be plenty of women interested in supplying that much sex.
In fact, I would think that if men want sex less than once a week, most women would be upset. Leith seems to think women don't really want to have sex at all.
I haven't had sex in 7 years and I date a guy who has ED and we haven't had one problem with our relationship yet. We find other thing to relate to with our relationship and it's been one wonderful time. Sex is to me, overrated anyway. I know, it's suppose to be a "big important" thing in a relationship, but in some cases it's not. Just accept each other for what you have to offer in the relationship. If you love each other, you can overcome any problems.
Not exactly the direction I thought the article would go. I was looking to see some questioning of the use of Viagra and the like as a means of men copping out on not doing other things essential to maintain erections sans medication.
Namely, keeping in shape physically and emotionally, eating right, basically taking care of their over all health, and maintaining a healthy sexual relationship with their spouse based on what they both agree to as being healthy for them.
I tend to view drugs like Viagra and the like as band-aids. They don't really fix the problem but mask the symptoms. Kind of like getting plastic surgery for non-health related reasons, although that in itself is a tricky argument.
I'd wager that some men genuinely do need the aid of the little blue pill, but I think it gets distributed to often and just enables men to keep on doing the things they shouldn't, and that is kind of the idea of the article as well.
I always raise a quizzical eyebrow when it comes to any statments that make it look like men are more demanding of sex than women. I'm really used to seeing the opposite. I'd probably say the few times I've seen a woman with a lower sex drive than her guy it was because her guy's idea of sexy time didn't mesh with her idea.
