Surprisingly, in today's world of abundant information exchange the number of myths about women that float around is rather alarming. May be it's supposed to add to the "mystique" or may be to make men more clueless than they already are. Personally though I've never been that good with ambiguities and mind games. I mean, I'm up for some short-lived word-play, but only in the name of fun when all parties are amused by it. Therefore, I would like to attempt to dissipate some of the said myths in hopes of making the world a more relationship-friendly place (or at least just rant out my angst). Lemondrop: The Key To A Happy Marriage? A Younger, Smarter Wife (And Sex)
1. Forget what TV told you. The Frisky: 5 Ways Women Try To Impress Men And Why They Don't Work
Contrary to the popular belief (disseminated by the media) all women are not constantly confused, neurotic, insecure about everything, love to watch dizzy chick-flicks, have the size of their intelligence oppositely proportional to their external attractiveness. In actuality a very large percentage of women who like to look good (and put some effort into it) are exceptionally intelligent and well educated. They just start pretending to be less so after they realize that very few men are secure enough to stick around once they realized that the hot blond they are hitting on has a PhD in space engineering (or something like that). Romantic Comedies Warp Your Brain
2. I'm not your ex-girlfriend.
Seriously. I'm not. Just because she yelled at you every time you did not answer her call right away, or cheated on you every time she felt neglected, left you when you got sick/in trouble/etc., etc. does not mean I will do the same. Even if you start behaving like an *** and trying to lead me into doing the same simply because you expect it, still does not mean I will do it. Same stands for the opposite—trying to get me to do something by saying that your ex-girlfriend did it is not a good strategy. The Worst Pop-Culture Boyfriends
3. To make things easier, assume I know everything.
Give some credit to my intelligence. I am fully capable of connecting my DVD player to the TV. I can even fix your wireless home network and install a new stereo in your car. I really don't need to wait for you to come and replace a burned out light bulb. Treat me as an equal human being, not as a retarded creature for whom you need to dumb down everything you say. Especially in front of your friends and relatives. There are also very few things more frustrating than suggesting something to your partner for it to only be discarded as silly blubber and later on repeated back to you like the most brilliant revelation by the same partner after he heard it from someone else.
4. I don't need to stop and ask for directions to find my way.
In fact, I hate asking for directions. I will never ask you to stop and ask for directions. Mostly because the directions people give are generally wrong. I'd rather stop at a gas station and buy a local map. (Yes, I can read maps. Even nautical ones.) Wife Vs. GPS
I don't want to know how much you make and how much all your properties/cars/suits/watches cost on our first date. Well, not even second/third/etc. Not as long as we are still in the "starting-out-dating" stage. Not until we're so serious that we're about to get married. In other words, don't flash $ numbers at me to impress me. It's insulting. It also implies that you have nothing else to offer and the only reason anyone would ever go out with you is for your money. Respect yourself if you want other to respect you. Although, having said that, I must clarify—don't confuse self-respect with being full of your self. No one likes a cocky megalomaniac who thinks he is God's gift to everyone an thus by default is better than anyone he will ever meet.
6. I have other interests than shopping.
As much as I enjoy finding that gorgeous pair of shoes that actually fit me I don't consider the process of looking for them to be my favorite past-time. We like to try out new things (scuba?—LOVE it; rock climbing?—I'm game if you are). If a woman refuses to try something there are generally three reasons: 1. she tried it before and hated it/got hurt; 2. it involves something she is generally afraid of/dislikes; 3. upon closer examination even you yourself will see that something should not be tried (sure it sounds cool in your head when you think of covering your wet feet in sand to protect them from heat of that fire bed you want to walk through—try saying it out loud and hearing it outside your head first). We also like a guy who is willing to try our favorite extracurricular interests and is not afraid of loosing his "manliness" if he agrees to take up salsa (tango/rumba/etc.) dancing (just think about it—she's wearing a skimpy dress with flowing skirt and heels and dance moves bring her really close to you...) Dancing Can Improve Your Relationship
Finally, keep in mind, that women differ from one another in more than just appearance. Remember that there's a good reason you are interested in this particular female above all the others. So, if you find that you don't know/don't understand something about her—ask her first. Not your friends. Not your ex-girlfriend (there's a reason she's an ex). Not even the magazines that are supposedly made for female demographic.