Are Your Updates Keeping You Single

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Are Your Updates Keeping You Single

I just recently got in to Twitter. Since I was forced to seriously
curtail my compulsion to blog about my personal life, I found enjoyment
in the quick, brief conversations I had with followers&friends.
Last night I found myself engaging in a just for fun Twitter
Flirtation. I believe the words "anal" and "vagina" were used.

For those few minutes I kinda forgot that, you know, EVERYBODY with an Internet Connection could see that conversation.

Not
to my surprise, an hour after I had this Twittersation, my Direct
Message alert bell went off on my phone. Not one but two guys decided
to private message me. Hmm...they never PM'd me before, like, EVER...so
what could this be about?

Oh yeah...I was talking about waxing my vagina (in a joking way) on Twitter. Duh.

It's
very easy to make yourself what I'll call a mark (easy target) on
Facebook and Twitter. Those 140 characters can tell people a lot about
you. In fact, folks can determine more about you by reading a day's
worth of updates than a trained psychologist could after multiple
sessions.   Like what, you ask? Well....

1. Do you update your status every half hour but don't really say anything? -
"Omigod! I love tomatoes!!!" "Oh man, can't find my keys!" 
"Ooooh...something shiny!" ...in other words.....I have nothing going
on in my life and/or I think I'm so fascinating that I must tell you
every thought I have when I have it. Either way, it's not good. It
makes you come off needy and high maintenance. The other problem with
the frequent updates is that it makes you look addicted to oversharing.
You're Tweeting from your laptop, your cell, etc. What people start to
wonder is "Geeze...do you ever log off?" You give the impression to
some that you are addicted to your gadgets and phone and computer. That
makes people question your ability to form real life (read: healthy)
connections. People will wonder if you rely on technology to relate to
others. Not a good thing.

2. Do you use Facebook to anonymously chew out friends, lovers or family or just vent? -
Don't do that. When you're on these sites, you're inundated with
upwards of 15-20 different updates in the moment you log on. If only a
quarter of them are negative, then the user experience becomes toxic.
And you become toxic. If you were at a party and you encountered a
stranger or acquaintance that was bitching about something that only
affected them, would you hang around? Probably not. Click goes the Hide
link. These people are not on Facebook or Twitter to validate your
existence or position. Anger, even in under 100 characters, is still
off putting. Sure, the occasional vent is fine. But don't make a habit
of it or you'll be deemed a downer or someone who needs anger
management. I had one guy on my FB page who almsot daily wrote about
how he wished people understood how much he was sacrificing in order to
help people. Nothing screams "martyr" louder than that. How draining.

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