How Many People Have You Slept With?
Tell us about your sexual past: what's your number?
Discussion
Don't worry about whether or not it's bad, look at whether or not you're making yourself unhappy. Did you want to have sex with all of them? Did they make you feel good? Did they treat you well? Did the sex feel good? Do you feel bad afterwards?
And from a mom's point of view - were you careful? Are you making sure you're safe?
im 18 an ive dated 5 people total all ranging in ages an how long i dated them from weeks to 1 yr. I never slept with any of them untill number 5 which i waited till i was 17 1/2 to have sex with he is the bf ive been wit for over 1 yr. now. We are somewhat happy together but thats only cas we get into too many fights together. But what relationship isnt like that? Im proud of myself that i saved myself for that man who is thinking of marrying me. He was my first real love an he always will be my only real love
I'm 19 and my number is 0. I'm not embarrassed and I know when the time is right it will happen. I'm definitely not the type to save myself for marriage. I've been dating this guy for two weeks and he's already talking about spending the night in Niagara falls. It makes me nervous because he's slept with girls before but knows I want to take things slow.
i relate on the part of being a virgin and im also not saving myself till marriage but i just havent been with a guy long enought to sleep with him or that i have feelings for
I have dated around 5 guys and haven't had sex with one of them, don't feel bad! Even though 4 of those 5 asked me I still didn't. I am really proud of it too! Lol
Ok, so Im 21 and my number is 0 :( I dont want to wait till marriage but i dont want to just sleep with anyone.
I started when I was 18, now I'm 32 and number is about 23.
But lately (last 5-6 years!), since I started to look for a life partner not just a sex partners, sadly it's been very slow.
So I'm feeling a bit out of it.
i am 21 and my number is 2 i started dating my only boyfriend when i was 17 and i cheated once and vow i would never do i again. our relationship ended resently i just could not keep that secret anymore and if he did that to me i would have left him so i called it quits
If a woman loves- she, as a rule, doesn't faithful, but if a woman faithfuls- she,as a rule, loves.
I've been with no-one, but that's only because it's literally impossible, physically at least. Mind you I'm 20, so does that make me a loser or something?
you're not a loser at all...in fact i admire all of you have have low numbers or 0. I lost mine very young, simply out of curiosity. I don't regret any of my 5bf out of 6bf except the one i lost it to. My best friend is about to turn 21 next week and she just lost her a few months back. NOTHING to me ashamed of when there's all kinds of people in this world.
Hmmm. I don't know what you mean by 20 is wonderful for a first time. I CAN'T have sex, even if I wanted too. *Sigh*, but then again, there are so many things in life I won't be able to do anyway.
I think you should not assume it is completely impossible for you. Here is an interesting website about having sex when you're disabled:
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/sexanddisability/se...
There is something at the bottom about a place to contact if you have a spinal cord injury.
helpline on 0800 980 0501 or http://www.spinal.co.uk/
i maybe the oldest on here but how many u slept with does matter, u will never find true love if you keep giving your pwere to every man you see or think is into you, then what will make THE REAL GUY feel special, nobody want a old used beat up clonker, set your standards higher and demand your respect and you may meet the guy whos a keeper not a sleeper
how many man u slept with doesn't matter. The man who gives u the stisfaction alongwith true love is important.
Wow somehow I'm with the 21% in the 0-1 range. did not think there would be that many with me. yeah I'm still waiting for the right time; my current boyfriend respects my decision to wait till after graduation.
for all those who started early, don't feel too bad, I just started dating late (a year ago).
Interesting question with interesting answers =)
I'm 19 and i've had 5 partners so far. I became sexually active at 14, with a guy i was so sure we were going to be together forever. We dated for about four years. Then it ended and well I'm a very sexual person so there were a few FWB because i wasn't ready for any type of really ready to be attached to anyone and go through all that pain again. I eventually found someone else I was happy to settle in with unfourtunatly a lot of differences tore that apart. So who knows what lifes got instore for me.
I am married to someone who is not home with me, but away. I would fool around but with all the mess that is out their I might as well wait for my husband to come home. Fooling around would make me real happy right now.
My husband is gone all the time too..he's a trucker.. but I did find someone who was a friend and have known for years.. just we don't live close enough to each other.. he's also married, but unlike my husband his wife is all for him having someone else too.. but I can relate to your problem.. I miss sex!
I'm now 28 and ? have slept with nearly 20 girls but most of them were summer loves when ? was working in hotels and holidays clubs..
It's so great to discover new bodies and new women.. If you love a woman then make love is a great thing but make love with an attractive and hot woman whom you're flirting is also so exciting and unforgettable ...
I wish ? could discover new bodies and new women but ?'m now married and ? have to choose.. ? can't have a beautiful family life on one hand and a poligam sex life on the other.. life is difficult
I'm 24 and have been married for almost 5 years. I'm a bisexual woman and my husband is fine with me having extramarital relationships with women, so I also currently have a girlfriend. Well, I had voted in the 11-20 range, but after I hit the vote button I realized that I had only been counting my partners of the opposite sex. I have been with 17 men and 5 women. I am absolutely in no way ashamed of that number. The only partner that I have not practiced safe sex with has been my husband, for obvious reasons, which I am proud of. Sex is something that is special regardless of whether or not it's your first, your 20th, or whatever. Every partner I've had has, at that point in my life that I was with them, meant something to me.
i dint have sexual relation before, i was 30y when married, but after 6 months due to a conflict we r separated (still married), i haven't had sexual relation except my wife till now...
My first was when I was 13-much too young, I think! My # is right around 50,and I have beenjmarried 3 times-I was faithful for 2 of these ! I got into meth when I was about 40 years old-and I really got into sex after that.i have been clean for 3 and a half years now, but I don't want to hurt my long-term partner,so I have never cheated on him; we've been togethet over % years,now. My sex life is way below what we had even 2 years ago, because he has so many health problems, and we never seem to be interested at the same time! I feel it is my resposability to not dump him, but I sure miss what we once had toghether. I miss having an active sex life , and wish I was single, again!Oh well, marry in haste,repent in leisure!
Maybe I should be really embarrassed but my number is 169, and the only reason I know that for sure is because my X pressured me into telling her one time and after several days that is where it ended.
I know most of you will think I am lieing but that is the truth.
Although she told me she had had only 2 before me I am not sure if that is true. The reason is because from the time we met she screwed around on me. After 23 years I finaly woke up and divorced her but only after finding out she had been screwing my daughters boy friends.
Later I counted at least 25 that I am positive she had been with, including my shipmates.
Yep I am a dope. One thing I do know is she had damn good p33sy and liked to share it.
50 PARTNERS. Im mid 40's and remarried at 40 after divorcing @ 25 ( to my first!). It was just racking up numbers post separation as a band aid, but after a while it was mostly monogamous relationships (albeit shortterm) looking for Mrs Right. I absolutely believe people better understand their partners sexual needs prior to a significant committment. I don't think its $$, but lack of physical intimacy that is destroy marriages/relationships. I've got a bunch of contemporaries that will/have cheat on the spouse because once the ring went on, sex became a solo act.
i was 14 my first time. obviously didn't last because my number is in the 11-20 range. while it wasn't the smartest thing i've ever done, what i've realized is that i have a strong sexuality that has to be taken care of, and that was an expression of it. i'm 32 now, and more comfortable with myself than ever. i've been told i'm highly unusual as a woman in the fact that i've actually sought out sex. i remember times in high school and college where i thought to myself, i need to get laid, and going out that night looking for a partner to scratch my itch. that's how i got to my number of partners! lol... and all but one of those partners were before i was 19 and involved with my first husband!
in my opinion, we as americans are too hung up on sex. it comes partly from our puritanical roots, partly from a strong evangelical christian presence. while i am not completely liberated from that, i am more in the camp that if we just embraced the fact that we are sexual beings, maybe some of the sexual dysfunction we have as a society would right itself. ok, getting down off my soap box...
I had that thought too, actually, and wondered if it was maybe the work of an overly zealous "wait till marriage" type, since the negatives seemed to fall on everyone who had practiced/are practicing pre-marital sex.
That, or my browser was just being really bizarre.
I agree that everyone should be able to freely express their points of view without being criticized about it. Nobody should ever neg anyones comment regardless if they agree with the other person on a issue or not. The only time I could think of in my mind that someone should get a neg would be if they outright were being mean and attacking another poster on the forums here just to be cruel to them. In that case, I'd give someone a neg and hope the system mod would deal with that person then. I'm new here so to be honest I'm not sure how everything works as far as what is allowed and what is not but in general so far I think we all seem to keep things respectful no matter what views we have.
BookMama you did the right thing in my opinion so I give you a extra thumbs up. : )
well i started out young ...too young i was 14 my first time...omg! i know im so bad in every ones eyes for starting so early. i have slept with 11 guys and i am 19 now. i am hapily married and aug. 14th is my one year anniversary! i've been with him for 3 years all together and we have a beautiful little boy who is 17 months old. iwish i would have waited for him to come along but i have to think of it as fate and if i had not did one little thing that i did my whole life could be diffrent and i might have never met him... i knew that my husband had only dated one other before me because he was shy and never approached girls but i thought that she took his virginity. i recently found out that i was his first! and i love the feeling of knowing that he is and always has been mine and mine alone....looking at things from this new perspective i can see how much he has learned in bed and i smile knowing that i am his teacher. he was a five minute man at first and now we can go for hours. we are always trying new things! i am so lucky to find my MR. Right i love him so much!
ive had 4 sexual partners and i am 19. dont judge,im just being honest. my first was when i was 16 and we had been together for almost 2 years before i gave it up. i thought i was inlove but we broke it off a few weeksafter. number 2 was a one time only and number 3 was FWB that became something more. he was the most passionate, caring and amazing guy ive ever been with. number 4 i am still with and have been for 2 years.
hope this is for males too..... here goes, 25 i can think of , remember,lol so better add another dozen. oops! they c*m back to me as i type. if you count oral, double it at least. looking back the one thing i regret is not staying long for the afterglow selfishly thinking of myself and also ignorant of the importance of it. of course some times neither of us had the option of time. now i do it differently ....do less and do more if you know what i mean,wink.
I am 22 and have slept with 11 guys. I started having sex at 16 and pretty much after I broke up with my ex at 18 I really experimented and had flings with guys. But I'm at a point in my life where I don't want to just 'give it up' its hard sometimes because guys can be real a******s and only care about sex even though I love sex just having meaningless 'sex' sometimes gets boring.
I am the 50+ and also in age. I love sex and I am one of a kind that men have a hard time with. It would be nice to find that special person for a lifetime but it was not to be. I was married for 20 years once. I am very sensual, sexual, erotic, exotic and a tantric. It is hard to find one man who can keep up with my activities and life let alone my sexual appetites. I do practice safe sex.
hey maybe we need to start a 45 and over club since these youguns just dont get it, i am 48 and have 8 guys to my name because i am so selective as to who get my mid, body and time, always have and always will be but the younger generation dont care much for waiting. I see so many men my age with very young girls it is a shame and maybe that is their level of maturity....huh
I disagree. There are many younger men who are available!! There was a study done by AARP that showed both sexes wanted younger partners! It is not a shame but the fact those people went after what they wanted no just what some one else wanted for them.
Hi E -
Well, you're not alone. I'm 48 and my number is like yours. But remember this, all you folks out in cyberspace - when we were out sowing our wild oats, the worst thing you could get from sex was a mild STD that could be cured with antibiotics. No AIDS or HIV, and not much of anything else, either. Of course, those days are LONG GONE and now we have to be more careful. I'm glad for my misspent wayward youth - LOL - because I got lots of the wildness out of my system before attempting to settle down. Even that was challenging in the beginning, and his ongoing lack of enthusiasm in the bedroom was the demise of a longterm marriage. Mate number 2 is much more understanding and passionate and my true partner in every way. Stay constant and true to yourself and your needs and hold out for a partner who will give you what you need, because anything less is not going to last for those of us out there who still have that wonderful wild sexual streak.
Stay hot and healthy -
B
i cant relate to any of you .. i was 18 when i started havinng sex and i was dating the mnan who is now my husband.. i have only been with him and i dont regret any of it...i got dumped several times in highschool because i wouldnt give it up but i didnt want to get prego or a disease so i waited for the right person
I started having sex at 20, i waited till I was head over heels then gave it up to a guy i worked with. He ended up being a jerk afterwards so I started dating someone else just to piss him off....Two guys is my confession and they both were embarrasing in the bedroom....I've never even had an orgasm!
My god, I felt validated when 'Samantha' admitted to sleeping with a mother load of men on SATC.
I am 46. Started having sex when I was 16. I have slept with about 30 men. I've been married for ten years and have remained faithful. So my annual average is about one and a half men a year if you take away the ten years of married life. I'm not ashamed of this at all. I practiced safe sex (most of the time) and had a ball. No pun intended.
Here's an interesting link. Apparently the most typical number for American women is 3 sex partners in their lifetime, for men it's eight (a few women must be pretty busy, though).
Averages are higher because there are a few people with really, really high numbers (Mick Jagger???).
http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/PollVault/story?id=156921&page=1
I wonder if numbers are higher for the younger generation or not?
I question the validity of such a study. I used to do surveys and by the tone of the voices could tell when someone was "fudging". Some people have better people skills and others are sought after or are in a "target rich environment. (many potential sex partners). But when they are asked they give a "socially acceptable answer".
I only know one girl off the top of my head who has been with less than 3 people that's under 25. I passed the 3 ppl mark 6 years ago.
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