Cheating How-To: Tips From A Mistress

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Cheating How-To: Tips From A Mistress

I am going to make an attempt at writing a post that includes affair-proofing your marriage or relationship, and tips on how to catch or confirm that your man is cheating. Watch: How To Catch a Cheater

First and foremost, know your partner. If you don't spend much time with your partner, if you don't simply lounge on the couch or talk to one another regularly, you need to. Silence is one of the biggest relationship killers that I've experienced, you need to verbalize what's going on in your relationship, not only with one another, but talk about work, talk about your interests, your goals, and know your partner. Communication is golden, and you need to have open lines of communication. Furthermore, if you know your partner, you're more likely to notice changes in his patterns or moods. Read: Which Love Language Do You Speak?

Secondly, don't pay too much attention to the "common" signs of cheating that are plastered and spoken time and time again. Unless your man is a caveman, he's probably smarter than that. Common signs include:

  • lack of sex - A smart cheater isn't going to slack up on sex at home, he'll probably be giving it to you the same as always or possibly even more often. The key here would be noticing changes in the sex, not the frequency. He'll pick up new tricks or techniques from a mistress and use them on you...if you've been dating or married for a while and his bedroom manner starts changing without notice, pay attention.
  • going out with friends out of no where - Now, granted, this is something to pay attention to, but seriously it could really be just going out with friends. Now, if he starts constantly going out with his buddies and develops a pattern of doing so that he hadn't been doing...pay attention. Going out with friends isn't the deal, he could legitimately be going out with friends, but might call it a night early and meet up with a mistress, so if you ask the friends if he was there - he was.
  • long absences with stupid explanations - Taking hours to complete simple tasks, going to buy milk, etc. These are usually things people tell you. If he goes to the grocery store and takes an abnormally long time...check the receipt, it will show what time he checked out. So, if he left at 12pm, and the receipt says he didn't check out until 3pm, you know that no man was shopping for 3 hours. Furthermore, ask! This goes back to communication, if you're curious, ask him what took him so long!
  • strange phone behavior - This is actually a good point. If he becomes over-sensative about his phone, starts putting it on silent, turning it off, or safe-guarding it, there might be a problem. However, uness your man is a total nitwit, don't check the device, check the bill! He can erase calls, voicemail, and texts from the device, but not the bill. However, men are evolving, and a pre-paid phone can be purchased at many major retailers for under $20 and all he has to purchase are minutes, and bam! he has an untracable method of communication, no bill, different number, and therefore, even if you check the bill, you'll find nothing. However, I've only seen savvy cheaters go to this method.

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