It's almost a cliche that men fear intimacy, but it's not always true and it doesn't have to be for you. While men may have a bit more trouble with sharing their inner feelings than women, women are not immune to it.
Do you even want intimacy? Some couples are comfortable having a more superficial relationship. They relate on a more surface level and seem to be happy with that. If you are in that place and are thinking something is missing, it's likely that you are missing a deeper level of connecting.
How to define true intimacy:
- Personal conversations on a regular basis
- Mutual trust
- Ability to rely on each other's confidentiality
- A deep emotional connection
- Emotional exposure
- Both people open - become vulnerable
People desire closeness to different degrees. Those who want it and go after it are happier and better adjusted in their marriage and in their work.