Yay or Nay (Advice needed)?

Yay or Nay (Advice needed)?

So recently I decided to experience a couple online dating things and have also been going to a night club to keep options open.  Well in both ways, I've met two people and at this point I'm not sure I really want a boyfriend but I don't want to lead them on either.  I know that when I start to like people, i'll lead them on and then can get scared.  I know I shouldn't get scared but it happens.  I'm scared because I have NO experience.

Anyways, so there's two boys at this point.  The one online I get along with really well and the one in real life I'm getting along with just as well.  I really would like to go on some dates this year.  Nothing serious, just fun.  But I guess my thing is, do these boys have the yay or nay quality for me :-/?

The Boy Online
He's in Iraq and will be returning home in November.  He's got a two year old daughter and is of twenty years of age.  He's got a lot in common with me amazingly and even if he doesn't like something I do, or I don't like something he does we still get along.  However, I don't want to give anything a try until I meet him in person but I am thinking about how this will affect me if it were to go anywhere.  I mean I just turned eighteen.

The Boy In Life
He's twenty one and says I'm unlike any other girls he's met or been with. Funny part is we met at a night club and I was very convinced he just wanted sex out of me.  I found out that's not true when he asked to be my second kiss and I politely denied, he was perfectly fine with it.  So I recognize at this point, that while I trust him with that now, I do need to confirm it will remain true that he won't try to push me.  We did talk a lot and have a lot in common and it makes me happy .  But I think I should get to know him better first.

I guess I'm a bit cautious when it comes to my emotions.  I'd like to hear about others experiences so please, feel free to tell me your stories!


Expert advice

Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
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