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Going through a rough patch...

Going through a rough patch...

My husband of nearly 10 years just told me that he doesn't repect me.   What kind of crap is that?  I've had this man's back all the years I have been with him and did many foolish things in order to keep him happy.  Where did I go wrong?  What happened to the sweet, thoughtful, NICE man I married so long ago?  Was he the greatest actor who ever lived or was I a fool to believe what he presented to me?   Having no respect for the partner you chose to spend the rest of your life with is a very nasty thing to hide and allow to fester until you blow up at that person over something innoculous and irrelevant.

Having forced that revelation out of my husband, I am now at a loss. I didn't know how to react.  i still don't know how to react.  What I do know is that he is not willing to work to preserve our marriage.  I can see him checking out of our day-to-day lives.  He is not so willing to stay with our children alone anymore.  I can't remember the last time we went out without the children.  He is slowly but surely distancing himself from the family he claims to love.

I can't do anything but sit and wait for the other shoe to drop.


Expert advice

Save your breath because you only need two words to make him commit.
Are you REALLY thinking about their happiness?
If you keep finding yourself in heartbreaking, dead end relationships, listen up.
It seems like you can't do anything right.

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