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11 Answers for Guy about Women

11 Answers for Guy about Women

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In response to "11 Things Guys Don't Understand About Women" from Glamour.com
http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/2009/01/11-things-guys-dont-underst...

“Why, oh, why, can’t you create a single, central location for your hair ties and bobby pins?!? And why is there one on the handle of the microwave?”

Because hair ties are one of those things we use a lot and we always want one near us when we need one. At my most organized I keep at least one in my car, in my purse, on my nightstand and on my wrist at all times. And there's one on the microwave handle because she was standing near the microwave when she took her hair down once and put it there so it'd be there when she needs it again.

“Why are women so afraid of bugs but can regularly pour hot wax on their bodies and rip hair out by its roots?”

So not the same thing. Bugs are creepy and crawly and (some of them anyway) can cause real harm and little to no reward. Waxing hurts a little, sure, but it's an evil we know and it has a reward that's worth it.

“Girls and drama! My God, it’s like an episode of Dawson’s Creek! He said, she said…it goes on and on for years. Do you ever get over an argument?”

Actually I sympathize on this one. My four best friends are all guys who argue like girls. One of them even told me once that if I didn't know what I'd done wrong he wasn't going to tell me. He then ignored me for two weeks and still hasn't told me what I did. But really, girls will get over an argument as soon as they feel whatever is wrong is righted. If, for example, I'm mad because someone made me feel unimportant to them, I'll get over it when they make me feel important again.

“I am confused enough about why the onslaught of hormones every month, like clockwork, still takes me by surprise (the next day when she gets her period, I’m like, Oh! We got into a fight because she was hormonal!), but why does that fact take her by surprise? Shouldn’t she kind of realize it and be like, ‘Don’t listen to me—I’m hormonal’?”

Um, you kinda answered your own question. She's hormonal. What she's doing or saying makes perfect sense to her at the time despite that once her hormones are balanced again she realizes what an idiot she may have sounded like.

“I don’t get why getting married so soon is so important to most women. Is love not enough?”

I don't know if I'd say "most" women. I for one am perfectly happy to remain single for years to come, maybe even forever, as are many if not most of my single girl-friends. But I think it's the same reason my ex insisted on marrying his new girlfriend before he left for Iraq. He said if they were only dating she'd cheat while he was gone but if they were married she wouldn't. Ridiculous? Completely. True? Probably not. But he's convinced, as many women probably are as well, that the ring seals the deal and keeps the partner from straying.

“Why all the shoes? Really, my sister has suitcases full of shoes that I've thrown aside more often than she’s even seen them. It boggles the mind!”

I had a guy friend once who I saw pretty much every day for about two years and in that time I saw him in four pairs of shoes; his dress shoes, his sneakers, his wrestling shoes and his slippers. That would never work for a woman. Let's take dress shoes for example. Summer dress shoes need to be different from winter dress shoes and we can't wear white sandals with a black dress. Perhaps we could cut down on the casual shoes, but then we wouldn't have the fun of shoe shopping would we?

“I don’t understand their attitudes! Everything is good for, like, the first three months, but after that, it’s a whole different ball game!”

I met a guy at a bar once, I wouldn't call him a friend of a friend, more an acquaintance of a friend. He was ridiculously drunk and getting on everyone's nerves. Having no emotional attachment to the guy, nor any desire to be attached in any way in the future, I told him to go sit down. He looked straight at me and said "I don't like you." I told him that was fine. My point? This guy and I are never going to date or be friends or even like each other. Had I had even an inkling of desire to ever be in his good graces, I wouldn't have told him off two minutes into meeting him. When people start dating, they put their best face forward. Later on their true self comes out more. I don't know if it needs to be as extreme as the question makes it sound, but it's bound to happen to some extent on both sides.

“I don’t get why girls say one thing and mean something different. Like when they say, ‘You can watch the game,’ and then when you do, you get in trouble.”

Ever see The Breakup (or even the previews for it?) The scene where Jennifer Anniston tells Vince Vaughn "I want you to want to do the dishes." Her words are the funny way to say it but what she actually means is "Of course you don't want to do dishes, no one wants to do dishes, I don't want to do dishes but I do them because they need to be done. I want you to be willing to do the dishes because you know it'll help me out and make me happy." We want you to be willing to skip the game to spend time with us. We want to be more important to you than the game. But we want it to be your choice, we don't want to be the bitch who wouldn't let you watch the game.

“What I don’t understand is why girls really, really, really want that nice guy, but once they find one, they can’t date him because now they need a jerk.”

I'm gonna throw this over to Yahoo! Personals and dating expert April Masini because she says it better than I ever could...
http://dating.personals.yahoo.com/singles/datingtips/85967/dating-secret... But to summarize, nice guys are too available and too easily attained. Like Ne-yo says in "Miss Independent" there's something about someone who wants you, but doesn't need you that's much more appealing than someone who never says no.

“Why do girls not like other girls when they first meet them? It’s as if they have to prove themselves to each other before they’ll consider them acceptable to hang out with.”

I've always gotten along better with guys, always, my whole life. I used to think it was because I was rather tomboyish. In high school I realized that my "nemesis" was a girl who was a whole lot like me, we even had crushes on the same guys, and that was the reason we didn't like each other. Bottom line, girls see each other as competition.

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