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I have always thought I had a strange kind of life with my husband. We meet back in 1996 when I was just starting Jr High. I actually meet him because he was yelling at his girlfriend and I just couldn't stand it so I told him he was a complete a** and grabbed her wand walked off. A week later she came to me and told me that her now ex boyfriend liked me and wanted to date me. He was totally opposite of me style and all so I said no. He then in return asked all my friends what kind of guy I liked and changed his style, so i figured a guy that is willing to do that I should give him a chance and I did. We dated off and on all through Jr High  then I realized I was actually really in love with him and it scared the hell out of me. I ran so fast and didn't look back then in High school I got a call rom him asking me to attend his jr prom with him which i did and his sr one to. When I was 18 I decided that I could not forget about they feelings I have for him. Even though I dated other guys he was always on my mind. So On my 18th birthday I called him and said lets go to texas and get married. We didnt of course we waited and told the family and had a big wedding in June of 02. 3 years to the day we divorced. We realized we got married way to fast and too young. About 11 months later I found out I was pregnant (yes after our divorce we still talked and saw each other weird huh?) Well I went on about my life going through it all by myself Yes I told him but it was just easier I let him go on and let me handle it by myself. I did to a point and he told me I had no choice he was going to be there as much as he could. He was when it was right for him but not when I need him. Finally about 3 months before I had our son I was put on bed rest and he wanted me to move in with him and I did. It was hard he was still seeing people and i was home all the time. Finally I told him I dont want him to date I want him to just be there for me and the baby and he agreed he got rid of his girlfriend and focused on me and the baby. A month before our son was born he ask me to be his girlfriend again and I said yes. We had our son and everything seem to fall in to place and we now have been married for a year and 3 months and it is going great. I feel from our first marriage we learned a lot and we are now stronger and we did our growing up. Our first marriage taught us to talk about problems not fight and walk out. If we have something on our mind talk about it.
        Well there it is. My strange little funny relationship. I always wanted to put it out there and see what people think


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