How To Love Like A Tough, Southern Chick
Cracker Queens exhibit a fun, fearless, take-no-prisoners attitude towards love.

Among a Southern woman's charms lies razor-sharp wit and a no-nonsense attitude towards men. Think Dolly Parton, Food Network's Paula Deen and Gone With The Wind authoress Margaret Mitchell, who took a "man's job" in the 1920s writing a column for the Atlanta Journal.
Author and NPR contributor Lauretta Hannon calls these iconic ladies "Cracker Queens," the term she's developed for fierce, loyal, thick-skinned Southern women. Hannon's memoir The Cracker Queen: A Memoir of a Jagged, Joyful Life features touching and humorous tales of her Southern roots and dysfunctional family members. Her PBR-drinking, hell-raising female relatives show us that a Cracker Queen in love is both tough and tender—but don't you dare call her a Southern Belle.
YourTango: What is a Cracker Queen? How do we know one when we meet one?
Lauretta Hannon: A Cracker Queen is a strong, authentic, fabulous woman. She has a raucous sense of humor and can open up a can of whup-ass as needed. She has known loss and hurt; these things have made her beautiful, resourceful, and above all, real.
A Cracker Queen radiates joy, playfulness, and love. She might be flashy and loud, but she will never play games with her lover or spouse and demands the same in return. In other words, she won't put up with any crap. Attempting to hold a Cracker Queen down is like milking a rattlesnake: It's best not to try it. But to win her love is to have paradise on earth.
You will know her by her sequined tube top, her trademark cackle and her mesmerizing charm.
What are the linchpins of a Cracker Queen?
Love is at the core of everything Cracker Queen. From that love springs the other regal essentials:
Forgiveness: She holds no grudges and doesn't engage in hissy fits. She's amazingly forgiving as long as you are honest with her.
Gratitude: She will appreciate you and express that appreciation every day.
Purpose: A Cracker Queen is spiritually focused. You'll have to exhibit some depth before she'll ever go out on a date with you.
Fearlessness: She is not afraid. Never try to motivate her through fear or threats. This is when a Cracker Queen will turn on you and end the relationship in a highly dramatic fashion—let's just say that fire is usually involved.
What's the difference between a Cracker Queen and a Southern Belle?
Belles are fake, manipulative, and concerned only with looks and other surface things. They love to act helpless around men... and it's a hell of a lot of work to get them out of those hoop skirts.
Cracker Queens are fiercely authentic at all times, supremely honest in their relationships, and always ready for a good romp.
What is the Cracker Queen's attitude towards dating? Sex? Relationships? Marriage?
Discussion
Cracker Queens will kick your A*** if you mess with their man! They are loyal and true and take care of the old people! Cracker Queens are spiritual and love to read the BIble. Cracker Queens are honest and forgiving but don't try to cross them or trick them! They will light your fire but, GOOD! I am a Cracker Queen!
I have to say that I agree with this article... This was not a joke step back off of the need to defend a second and look at it from a true perspective of what was said. Take out the southern fluff if you will. I am very outspoken sometimes to the point where curt and rude would come to mind in some facets. You apparently did not read this article broken glass because what your saying is exactly what she is talking about . Your defensive approach is another she is talking about. You just solidified her example ...WE get pissed if we think your talking down about us, where we come from, and we have a real problem in people making generalizations about us. Especially the hair rollers, trailer park, standing out side waving at the news cast to come over and listen to us make the recreation of the tornado sound as it blew the trailer right off the wheels. And do this on tv.. But hey, regardless to the stories we can emphatically relate to ...We can relate to them as easy as the ones from far away (.just as easy as we can those skier's on that were caught in that avalanche a few years ago) We will lose sleep at night worrying that someone is without their family or loved one that we do not know. I actually think this is one of the best paraphrased ideologies of me that I have ever read. We learn differently and the one thing that article did not say is that we learn love being loved, not being scared to show it, and the real values of human need by example. Not to say other areas do not do that. We just believe in it with all of our hearts,. The one thing as I said that you will probably Identify with is that everything we do we embrace it with such passion. We love with everything we are, we give with everything we are, and the real kick ass thing is we can do that because we know who we are and we don't want to be any one else. The approach and method to our madness falls in one word we "believe:". We believe and see the good in everything. Sometimes we can see the good in people that they often cannot see because simply put, we take the time to be what we need to be and we do that with respect for humanity. The one thing I do not have tolerance for ....complacency and lack of respect. Being in a situation where i can observe human behavior more so now I have found that the true difference lies in the ones who are scared to realize the lack of depth to their person and who they are. I am on a singles site and I have read more adds where it's about the guy wants. NSA=no strings attached. the one that irks me the most is the statement.....I am not changing my life. It's as if they are some artificial bubble that needs to make sure you don't become attached to them. I have found any profile or person who starts a relationship off with boundaries of the relationshiop itself is actually not their for how its intended or for the reasons you go to those communication sites. Quite certain they are the fakers,.
I think the history of Atlanta is so much the reason it is what it is today. It's not a southern city displaced...in fact its' the romanticism and the belief that made it what it is ...standing up for what you believe in whether its a city, ethical issue, a moral issue...it's part of who we are and its because of those belief's and convictions that makes us strong and most of all independent. We teach our kids to survive and that is being independent but the key is we teach them out of nuture and we teach them to make choices and to find their way,. The true making of someone who knows what they want ......and better yet how to get their....give them the love and knowledge to make their decisions based on something they believe in and stand for ...then what ever it is they will do it with much passion and everything good starts and ends with passion for without it ....a motion, out of routine, down a road of complacency, ceasing to exist because we are not accountable for our person.
This was cute. And it is true. We are a lil' loud and love us some pretty tops with sequins on em. Don't get us confused with a southern helpless bell, that isn't us. Not sure I want to be called a cracker though, plus , we come in all colors and have this great way about us. We are not hicks! That is just plain ignorant to say that. We are glamorous in an OK I'll get dirty if I have to kinda way. I'm from Texas, and wouldn't give up who I really am for anybody. Especially people with northern aggression, HELLO!
I hope this was a joke.
I am a true Southern girl from South of the Mason-Dixon line, and this is embarassing. Honestly, this and the crap that C. Ravenbark writes is what keeps stereotypes pinned on Southern people. I find it appalling. Sure, Southern women are no b.s., we love hard, and we don't play games... And we will burn your belongings in the driveway... However, I had never heard of a "Cracker Queen" before this article and I hate it when people from Atlanta (or other Southern metro areas) try to write about the South or Southern people. Atlanta is inconveniently located in the South, but the city is by far Southern and I give no credit to their tales of Southernisms.
I guess the antithesis to this story is 'How To Love Like A Tough, Southern hick: embarassing anecdotes of a redneck man'.

