Some people (usually people under 21) freak out if you tell them you are dating someone ten years different in age. Some people think it's impossible. I don't think it is. But it is for me. Some people thrive on the fact that their partner is DIFFERENT from them. But I need some similarities in values and interests to really be comfortable with it all.
For whatever reason, it seems that I have been perpetually hooked up with women who are 10 years my senior. Each time, this has failed miserably. Three times in a row, that is. Why does this fail for me? Well, it's not that there isn't an initial attraction because obviously, there is. But like I said earlier, I need someone who is more LIKE me than DISLIKE me. I find it very hard to overcome the "generation gap" with women 10 years older than me.
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I always find that they have different attitudes towards sex, different attitudes towards the world and culture, different attitudes concerning interests, politics, social agendas, even diet and activity. I find that a lot of "older" women (i.e. older than me) tend to be very controlling and manipulative, particularly a lot of women between the ages of 35-40. I understand that this is the experience *I* have had and is not an indicator that all women that age have those traits.
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I do tend to get all the dysfunctional losers attracted to me and I've been told that this is because I'm somewhat dysfunctional myself. Dating dysfunctional wierdos is no picnic, believe me. I advise one to avoid it if you're at all like me. My life has had enough hiccups without being around a partner who can't even keep their own life straight. I plan to make a post specifically about this issue: Dating dysfunctional people.
Well, that is my first post. I have a difficult time with older women. I usually end up hating them in the end with great ferocity. Hopefully, I will be wiser in the future to avoid these "cougars." I find that they are just that usually: Predatory creatures who only want to suck you of your life.