YourTango is your community for love, sex, dating, and relationship advice. Community | Feedback
User login
  1. I forgot my password!
Logging you in, please wait...
Login Sign Up

How To Become A Kept Woman

SeekingArrangements.com wants to put gold diggers and sugar daddies together.

By now you're probably familiar with the idea that there exists a special kinship between rich men and attractive women. In fact, there appears to be a preternatural attraction between wealthy, older fellows and jaunty, nubile broads.

This weekend's New York Times Magazine explores the interweb destination SeekingArrangement.com. The site's raisin d-tree (it's Latin, or so I heard through the grapevine) is to provide a safe place for PYTs* to shake their little behinds for the moneyed menfolk (per the Times article, one quarter of the people on the site are trolling for dudes and about one percent of the 'sugar daddies' are actually ladies**). While you can probably easily imagine what goes down between the users of the site (gold diggers digging gold, wealthy men making it rain, etc), the Times piece seeks to answer the most journalistic question: why.

And, not to give too much away, the rationale largely mirrors that of strip clubs: men would rather purchase time and affection with money and leave the emotional entanglement on the sideline and, for the women, college books are mad expensive. But, of course, human frailty (and sentimentality) has a pesky tendency to get in the craw of a really good idea. I can imagine that a lot of these sought arrangements do not end well when the level of emotional and fiscal dependency gets cranked up to 11 and the rug eventually gets pulled out (i.e. he gets bored of pushing up and down on the same gal or she, you know, gets a regular job).

Despite the weirdly frank nature of the site, I'm glad it exists. Not because I'll ever be able to afford cutting anyone a check for their time and affection (directly, that is), but because it's sort of embarrassing to see old guys up in the club.  Seriously, I'm almost too old to disco-disco; Daddy Fat Stacks is bordering on humiliating himself. It's nice that he can meet a sweet little goomah and not have to listen to Lady Gaga.

Do you think any girls have bumped into their dad or their dad's friends on this site? That would be a fun story for FMyLife.com.

*Pretty Young Things.

**Note: While men seem to physically age more gracefully, I feel like women may age more gracefully from an emotional standpoint (Diane Keaton characters notwithstanding).  That is they're not as likely to chase tail as a tonic to getting old (despite the cougar phenomenon).

Can you relate?

Discussion

thekeptwoman Complicated
This Happened To Me! - Posted May 31, 2009

I am 100% a Kept Woman and love every moment of it. I'm lucky though: a guy who really loves me, a great life and no responsibility. I write about it on my blog too www.thekeptwoman.com

All relationships are contracts, you should just be honest about what you put in and get out of it.

Score: -1

You need to be logged in to do that!

Login or sign up now - it's fun, easy, and free. We'll keep your seat warm for you!
BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted April 18, 2009

Men don't age more gracefully than women, they're just better at believing gold-diggers. And I'm afraid women are more mature emotionally, we're just not rich and powerful enough to fool ourselves about how we look.

Score: 0
BookMama Married Happily Married
Posted April 18, 2009

Sorry, I meant women are NOT more mature emotionally, we're just not rich and powerful enough to fool ourselves about how we look.

Score: 0
Tom Single
Posted April 16, 2009

Hey lwarrell,

I really liked you link. Very nice. Tried to leave a comment over there but got shut out for some reason, probably a flub on my part.

I loved the details about the teacher. It reminded me of the Professor from Futurama ("great news, gang, I'll just molest you for an hour or so and then fall asleep to Mattlock").
I wonder if this is just human nature though. "They" (possibly the Chinese) say that a man spends his youth acquiring wealth and then his wealth acquiring youth. What's a better way to stay young than by creeping on beautiful, young women? Old balls and liver spots be damned.

Thanks for reading, linking and commenting. Keep checking us out and we'll do likewise (hopefully, I'll figure out how to post comments on your site).

Score: 0
lwarrell Starting Over
Posted April 13, 2009

Interesting. I actually had a guy ask if I'd like to be his kept woman. I was none too thrilled - I wrote about it here: http://tartandsoul.com/2009/03/16/can-i-be-your-sugar-daddy/

Love your work, Tom!

Score: 0

Join the Discussion!

Login or sign up now - it's fun, easy, and free. We'll keep your seat warm for you!

Custom Newsletter 2

Recommended for You

Login or Sign Up for a personalized YouTango experience.
See all or Ask your own question!