Are you attracted to someone, but put off by his or her style of kissing? Don’t worry – we’ve all been there. YourTango’s Still Life Love Advice has some tips on how to coach your partner without offending them.

One thing is certain: “If you make a bad kisser feel self-conscious, they’ll never improve,” advises YourTango’s kissing consultant. To avoid a tongue fight, be prepared to take the lead and remember to put the focus on lips. Everyone kisses differently, so it’s up to you to teach your partner what you enjoy.

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“Help! My boyfriend is a terrible kisser.  How can I make him better without hurting his feelings?”

Excellent question, Anna.  As a pair of lips, I’m exceptionally qualified to dish about the kiss.  The tongue gets all the glory, but take it from someone who knows - the lips are the most important kissing ingredient.  The first thing to know is that if you make a bad kisser feel self-conscious they'll never improve.  So when you first lock lips you should indulge the smoocher’s lame-brain technique.  It probably involves a lot of tongue.  Then, right before the monotony becomes a turn-off, go for the lip.  Once the focus is off the tongue, you have a ton of options.  You can lightly tug their lip with yours.  You can switch from top lip to bottom.  The trick is to show them options without being pushy.  As for the tongue, let her back in after you’ve played with the lips a bit.  Good luck, Anna.  And good kiss

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