Handle Jealousy Like A Hot Chick

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How to act like Freida Pinto, even if we don't all look like her.

At first look, taking advice from How To Love Like A Hot Chick: The Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Guide to Getting the Love You Deserve might seem imprudent. The authors, Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent (from Not Another Teen Movie) are two decidedly hot chicks, so the idea that they'd be able to relate to everyday Plain Janes is as believable as The Supermodel's Guide to Getting Pants Hemmed.

But, then, beauty is both relative and subjective. While looking pretty might get you free things, its certainly not an invicibility cloak. Yes, even the beautiful people feel insecure and jealous at times. Ok, before we join hands and sing "Kumbaya," read these helpful hints from two empowered ladies for battling jealousy's ugly green head.

 

1. Remind yourself that "Love brings up everything unlike itself."

Jealousy is a natural feeling, so don't beat yourself up about it. On the other hand, remember to reign it in and don't be a crazy stalker either.

2. Hug It Out. We know this may sound cheesy, but if you say to your man "I'm feeling jealous and grossed out about blah blah blah. Hug me and tell me I'm pretty," your man should respond with open arms.

Novel advice: Be Honest?! Communicate?! We love it.

3. Flip It. This may sound manipulative, but we swear it's not. It is sometimes very necessary when our man is being stupid.

Ok, this is slightly manipulative and could potentially backfire if your guy thinks you've flirted too far with someone. At the same time, men don't always respond to subtle cues, so illustrating to him how you were hit on by a rockstar/NFL superstar/insertjealousyinducingmanhere might help him understand why seeing him talk to supermodel/female NFL sportscaster/insertjealousyinducingwomanhere made you a teensy bit insecure.

4. Look in the Mirror. We must always remember to take a good look and remind ourselves that we are Hot Chicks!

For more details on how to feel like a "hot chick" even when bloated, cranky, tired and dead-of-winter pale and flaky, you'll have to buy the book. The basic gist is: we're our toughest critics. So, woman up and realize you have a lot to give someone... and, probably, just as you already are.

5. Don't Compete. If you can't find something more productive to do with your time, then go to the gym and let your jealousy fuel your workout.

Once we let ourselves slip down the rabbit hole of trying to feel prettier, smarter, funnier, more adept at bar games than your boyf's female friends, his coworkers or his ex, it's all White Rabbits and looney milliners from there on out. In other words, just don't go there in the first place. It's hard to get out, Alice.

 
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