Handle Jealousy Like A Hot Chick
How to act like Freida Pinto, even if we don't all look like her.
At first look, taking advice from How To Love Like A Hot Chick: The Girlfriend-to-Girlfriend Guide to Getting the Love You Deserve might seem imprudent. The authors, Jodi Lipper and Cerina Vincent (from Not Another Teen Movie) are two decidedly hot chicks, so the idea that they'd be able to relate to everyday Plain Janes is as believable as The Supermodel's Guide to Getting Pants Hemmed.
But, then, beauty is both relative and subjective. While looking pretty might get you free things, its certainly not an invicibility cloak. Yes, even the beautiful people feel insecure and jealous at times. Ok, before we join hands and sing "Kumbaya," read these helpful hints from two empowered ladies for battling jealousy's ugly green head.
1. Remind yourself that "Love brings up everything unlike itself."
Jealousy is a natural feeling, so don't beat yourself up about it. On the other hand, remember to rein it in and don't be a crazy stalker either.
2. Hug It Out. We know this may sound cheesy, but if you say to your man "I'm feeling jealous and grossed out about blah blah blah. Hug me and tell me I'm pretty," your man should respond with open arms.
Novel advice: Be Honest?! Communicate?! We love it.
3. Flip It. This may sound manipulative, but we swear it's not. It is sometimes very necessary when our man is being stupid.
Ok, this is slightly manipulative and could potentially backfire if your guy thinks you've flirted too far with someone. At the same time, men don't always respond to subtle cues, so illustrating to him how you were hit on by a rockstar/NFL superstar/insertjealousyinducingmanhere might help him understand why seeing him talk to supermodel/female NFL sportscaster/insertjealousyinducingwomanhere made you a teensy bit insecure.
4. Look in the Mirror. We must always remember to take a good look and remind ourselves that we are Hot Chicks!
For more details on how to feel like a "hot chick" even when bloated, cranky, tired and dead-of-winter pale and flaky, you'll have to buy the book. The basic gist is: we're our toughest critics. So, woman up and realize you have a lot to give someone... and, probably, just as you already are.
5. Don't Compete. If you can't find something more productive to do with your time, then go to the gym and let your jealousy fuel your workout.
Once we let ourselves slip down the rabbit hole of trying to feel prettier, smarter, funnier, more adept at bar games than your boyf's female friends, his coworkers or his ex, it's all White Rabbits and looney milliners from there on out. In other words, just don't go there in the first place. It's hard to get out, Alice.
Discussion
I am 35 and am confident to say I am a ver attractive and able women who had acheived a lot in life by using my brain:)
All my life, I have been judged by people for the way I look as opposed to who I am as a person and my abilities. I have felt this in so many ways and have never found it easy to get on with women or men and feel people are looking for something to criticise me on all the time.
Womena nd men are sceptical of a woman who's confident and attractive, I think they cant fathom it as our crazy media and culture has defined women into 2 groups; unattractive and smart or attractive and stupid! I also think some women feel threatened.
I say to other women out there that feel this, dont change who you are. If you enjoy making the mst of your self, do it. I just think there has to be a time and place to look glamorous and if you work in a serious job, tone down your style a bit.
I guess I need to get the book and read it, but I enjoyed this article......in my experience......the thing about jealousy and women....GET A CLUE! Men get tired of defending themselves for being men! Just because he is with you does not stop him from being male! In other words don't go off because your guy looked at another female! No one, not even Angelina Joelie (sp), is that hot! It has nothing to do with you. Like yourself, respect yourself, and remember beauty is like art, "In the eye of the beholder." When feeling insecure I agree with kassandra, and remember even Angelina Joelie has her beauty insecurities, but she is secure enough in her character that Brad can be a guy and she doesn't care...only the tabloids seem to care. JM2c
I am suprised there are no comments here. Where is our confidence ? I love this article !!!! We do deserve to be seen as the beautiful women we are !!! And there are time when our jealousy gets us to the point hwere we begin to look at ourselves and think everyone out there is somehow better then us, well right then and there is when WE need to look in the mirror and repeat the steps listed above. I totally agree !
