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In the beginning...


I never thought that when i moved to new jersey that I would meet the man i was going to marry. I think I was here for about 3-4 years when I met him. I was currently in an "soon to be ending" relationship, I started a new job that my sister found for me. It was a pretty neat job, and I figured I'd try it out. The first person my sister introduced me to was a guy named, Masud. She told me that he was definitely a person I'd want to get to know, because he was so nice, and interesting, and always had a positive out look on things. When I met him for the first time, I could see it in his eyes that he was a gentile person. Since I was in a reltionship, i had no second thoughts about him. The next couple times I worked with him, we spent alot of time talking in between our projects. One day, he asked me if I wanted to come over and play some pool w/ him and his friends. I was a bit sceptical, but i figured if my sister had a good feeling about him, and i had a good feeling about him, that i would be safe. Later that night after going out to dinner with a girlfriend of mine, I got a phone call from him, and he said if i wanted to, I could come over and we'd play some pool. I ended up going over, and meeting some of his friends, who were really respectful and polite. After that first night of hanging out, we started hanging out alot. My (ex) boyfriend and I soon after broke up (not related to me meeting Masud) and honestly I had no intimate feelings for Masud until shortly after me and my ex broke up. We were sitting in the car, at night, with the light on, we were looking through some autotrader adds in the paper, and all of a sudden, out of no where, i just had this urge to kiss him. Being as shy as I am, i didnt do or say anything to him about it. On my way home from work, I though to myself, " I should tell him how I feel" because if I had a chance, i'd want to know, but on the other hand if I didnt have a chance, I wanted to try to stop the feelings that were starting to come up. So I texted him (the safest way for me) "All night tonight I couldnt stop thinking about kissing you". I didnt hear anything back from him on my way back home, but as soon as i got home and got into bed, I got a phone call. I kept thinking to myself, as I was looking for my phone, "please be Masud, please be Masud". When I finally found my phone, I saw that name, "Masud", I was so excited! We talked about my text message for probably an hour, and finally we came to the conclusion that next time we see each other, we would kiss to see how both of us felt for each other.
Our first kiss.. its really the best story out there. I went to his apartment, hung out for a while. All night long we keep meeting eyes and just smiling really sweetly at each other. When it was time for me to go, he walks me out to my car, he says he'd like to sit and talk a little bit, so he sits in the passenger seat. About a minute into our conversation he grabs my hand, and starts "petting" it. He looks me in the eyes, we both start giggling, and we start to kiss. Seriously! Fireworks, butterflies, light headedness, all at once. So we realized that we definitaly have some chemistry together.  

 So that was the start of Masud and I


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