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Short On Time? 10 Ways To Squeeze In More Sex

A busy life doesn’t mean you should put “have sex with significant other” in your PDA!

squeeze in more sex

Just because you lead a busy life that doesn't mean you should put "have sex with significant other" in your PDA! If you want to keep your sex life spontaneous, you need to begin to see even the most mundane activities of your day in a more sensual context. Remember, what's really sexy is not always being available, but when two people lead independent, exciting lives. Follow these suggestions and you'll keep sparking each other for years to come.

1. Make sure to multitask.

Many women are under the misconception that sex is an activity that needs your full and undivided attention. Not true! In fact, you can have some of the best sex of your life while doing double duty. Hop in the shower together to get clean and dirty at the same time. Get through dinner with your boss by discreetly teasing your man under the table. Multitasking of this manner is not recommended for activities that do require all your attention, like French braiding hair, making stir-fry or Sudoku.

2. Put your kiss on his list.

If the quick kiss you give each other when you leave for work has become automatic, spice things up by savoring the moment. Try going for his neck instead, or playfully bite his lip when he comes in for a smooch. Save the dry pecks on the cheek for grandma.

3. Don't reciprocate.

Sex doesn't always have to be a "you rub my genitalia/I'll rub yours" proposition. If you set up a dynamic in which every sexual action is tit for tat, you not only risk falling into a routine, but you make sex into a project rather than a pleasure. Next time you're pressed for time, let him take care of you—then zip up your jeans and be on your merry way. (Just remember to let him be on the receiving end, at least some of the time!)

4. Beat the clock.

When time is short, seize the opportunity to get down. Guests arriving in ten minutes? Go for it! If you think you won't be able to get in the mood that fast, you'll be surprised how the spontaneity of the moment, combined with the pressure to finish in a hurry can make for an explosive encounter!

5. Give him your "love touch."

Even if it's just a hand on his shoulder as you take a conference call or a quick squeeze of his knee when you're driving somewhere, skin on skin contact makes you aware of each other's physical presence. A quick pat on the butt or a brush of your hand across his crotch in the morning will plant the seed for a sexual encounter later that night.

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bogart4017 Married
Posted June 29, 2010

I once surprised my wife by coming home unexpected on an extended coffee break and heating up the sheets. She was quite pleased.

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GaryT Single
Posted March 24, 2010

Make sure to multitask. Funny advice. My wife washes the dishes and I..Not the kind of advice I would follow. Sex requires my full attention :) Gary from Wii softmod

Agata Single
Posted October 1, 2009

Thanks for the interesting post and the useful tips! You've described some really powerful tools that can spice up the routine sexual life! Usually, we really have some free minutes at work, so why not make them naughty? A friend of mine told me that she always stays "in touch with her body", especially in traffic jams ;) Think I'll follow her advise and purchase a couple of discreet sex toys for my daily commuting

sexy0021 Single LOYAL-NaUgHtY -NiCe- Endurance
Posted March 26, 2009

Never underestimate the lunch hour quickee---you return to work with a smile on your face and daydream about continuing the affair when you get home. Why wait... have her pick you up from work and do it in the car!!!!!

Lyz Married Community Manager
Posted March 26, 2009

Soooo.....you're saying you work with your S.O.??

sexy0021 Single LOYAL-NaUgHtY -NiCe- Endurance
Posted March 27, 2009

Sooo.. I am saying I work a block away from home and there definitely is an advantage of choosing your home strategically. Heck--c*m 2 think of it my last 3 homes were within a 60 sexond drive from work--how 'bout that Mel Allen?!
And as far as dry spells go---why settle for that?--- never---abstainence is nonsense when you are in a truly loving, lustful relationship in my opinion.

Chacha Taken
Posted January 12, 2009

Okay I agree with the inserting naughtiness into your day. But here is the thing. Why are we so anxious about not always having sex? It's okay for people to go through dry spells. Even people in a long term committed relationship.

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